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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:my husband is a bully. ive been married just two years and things are horrible at home. everytime we have a few words he flies off the handle and then starts calling my family. he never takes me out but when weve had an arguement he goes out to our local night club and doesnt come in till 4am. two weeks ago i went to see what he was up to and he was very drunk and was chatting to loads of girls, he even told them he was divorced! since that night we havent spoken. if i try and talk to him he swears and calls me names. he never says sorry for anything and its always me that has to make the first move to save our marriage. theres loads of other issues but what do i do now when he doenst want to talk anything through.
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reader, BlondeBabe x +, writes (19 May 2008):
 Why are you even still with him, you hear about these stories all the time!
Get out before it gets worse, and you really end up getting hurt!
Leave him and get a fresh start with your life and never go back to him no matter how much he has said that he has changed!
So if i was you i would leave him but in the end it is your choice. . .
Keep me posted on what happens
Good Luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2008): Leave today! Honestly things will get worse, and i should know, i was married to a bully who turned into a wife beater and i finally got away after many miserable years. Why should you live your life miserable, there is no need.
Get him out of your life now, or leave yourself, but go.
take care and mail me if you want.
xx
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reader, GetAGrip  +, writes (19 May 2008):
Don't leave or put up with it. If you love him you, go and get consilling on your own. He will see changes in you and how you respond to him. You need to talk to him with your head and not your heart. Counciling will make you a stronger person. It is easier to brush it under the carpet. Don't do it. You need to give a marriage 100% before you let go. It will be a tough journey but at least you can say you tried.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (19 May 2008):
Well you can either stay and put up with it, or leave.
There is a chance that he might go to marriage counselling etc and change but do you honestly think he wants to?
I would get out of there if I was you. The shock may make him realise what he's losing and make him agree to change. Or he may just carry on as he is and not notice.
Either way, you can't want to stay with a man who treats you this way. Get out, stay out, start again.
Good Luck!! xx
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