A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I would like to know what precisely distinguishes a friend from a girlfriend. They seem to be two defined points in a relationship but it’s hard knowing where one begins and one ends. Me and my best friend seem to be happy somewhere between the two, and we’re gradually progressing towards the couple side of things. I like to think of her as my girlfriend but she tells people that we’re just friends, despite the fact that she’s closer to me than she was to either of her ex boyfriends. Maybe some things simply can’t be labelled. Just looking for some opinions :-)
View related questions:
best friend, her ex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2008): Thank you for your replies :-)
There is intimacy between us, we spend a lot of time cuddling and holding hands but never beyond the walls of my house. It’s definitely not a “friends with benefits” relationship but nor does it feel like a brother and sister relationship even though we are yet to share bodily fluids as you so put it. :-) I’m just a bit frightened to be honest, I’ve never been in a relationship before but I’m sure this is the girl for me and I just don’t want to mess this up when things seem to be going well at the moment.
I’ve been advised in another question to back off especially with the cuddling and flirt with other girls as to make myself appear to be more boyfriend material but I don’t know if this course of action is too drastic, it could be a fantastic plan which has potential to go terribly wrong! Is it possible that things will just develop naturally without the need for avasive action? I mean the obvious sensible thing would be talk about our relationship but it’s a pretty daunting thing to do especially as it could make things difficult between us.
A
female
reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (7 August 2008):
Do you share bodily fluids?
That's usually my definition.
If there is no snogging or sex then you just have a really close connection but you are more like brother and sister.
Be careful because if she decides to go off and have sex with some guy then at the moment there is nothing stopping her although you may be really hurt by this.
Good Luck!! xx
...............................
A
male
reader, PeterPan  +, writes (7 August 2008):
 I suppose everyone has their own definitions on how they go about describing their relationship with other people. For me, the dividing line between "friend" and "girlfriend" is the level of intimacy you two have shared. Assuming that you've been intimate and it's clear you're not in a "friends with benefits" kind of relationship, then I would call that a girlfriend.
Did that help any?
...............................
A
male
reader, CuriousKetnar +, writes (7 August 2008):
Is there any intimacy or just two people that are best friends that happen to be opposite sex from one another?
For me, before my girlfriend and I were officially "girlfriend and boyfriend" she would make jokes and hints to me saying stuff like "Your just my friend though" when we were clearly more than friends.
She continued to say that until we finally had a serious conversation about our relationship and about us together and from that point on she called me her boyfriend.
I think everyone can act a little different about things like this but at the same time I think you should know if you are more than just friends...
...............................
|
