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writes:Recently my boyfriend admited that he cheated on me. I forgave him after a period of time. Up to now I am not having any trust issues but I am worried that it may happen again we have only been together for 2 months but I really like him and I think I may be falling in love with him. What should I do?
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reader, Cherriepie  +, writes (12 March 2008):
 Cheating doesnt count after knowing someone two months. You barely know each other. When I started dating my boyfriend I slept with a few guys even before I got intimate with my guy. I just didnt want to rush into sex with him , but still needed to have sex so thats why I hooked up with some other guys I knew. Right now Im steady with him, but my feeling is that until you make that real commitment it should be okay to have more than one sex partner. I hope you give him a little understanding its not like you have a solid commitment after two months.
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reader, youngandconfused90 +, writes (12 March 2008):
 Once a cheater, always a cheater! The longer you stay in this relationship the more you will get attached and the worse you will feel when he does it again. Its only been two months he couldn't keep it in his pants for two months. You need to have trust in any relationship for it to last and the fact that he broke it so early on could work to your advantage, for example: Good thing you know this about him two months into the relationship instead of two years, knowing this early on gives you the opportunity to doge a bullet. Doge this one have enough respect for yourself not to date someone who could have that little of respect for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2008): Hey,I don't at all mean to be harsh, but you are young, and from my experience, i have learnt if so early in a relationship he has done this it is bound to happen again. I do agree with one of the previous posts, you will have a trust issue as it appears there is one already. I only say this as I was once in a similiar situation and the trust issue may never go away, move on, you have so much time to meet a better person who won't take you to be a fool. You don't want to be in a position where you are wondering if he is somewhere else with someone else all the time, i would get out of it before the pain increases and it gets harder. Let him know he can't just treat someone like that, especially when this other person thinks they are falling on love with them. where is the respect?!Be strong, and remember, it is hard to find a guy so young and less likely to have one goal!
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reader, sxc-stef-07 +, writes (11 March 2008):
i am the girl in that story by the way. and the person who said i give women a bad name for your information he wasnt screwing other women he only kissed her. i am only 15 for gods sake. Get Real!!!x
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (11 March 2008):
 Look your young you should learn this lesson while your young and stck with it, some men cheat sometimes its just once and the gult eats them till they confess others cheat all the time because they know there partners will take them back.
Now are you someone willing to take that risk or get on with your life with out him so he wont hurt you again.
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reader, Gena Bullock +, writes (11 March 2008):
 Honey, you're so young. There will be boys after boys after you until you are in college even. Hormones are raging. I know I sound like your 'mother,' however; listen nonetheless. If he cheated at this stage of the game, he will continue to do so. Especially IF you've forgiven him and he knows he's gotten away with it once. He'll do it again most likely--and not tell you the next time. So, you'll always be guessing/wondering. Not a good life to live at so young an age. Dump him and enjoy the dating life, if you're allowed to date at your age. YOu don't have to jump in the sack with every Tom, Dick, and Harry, you know. Wait for Mr. Right...remember this, boys don't mature as fast as girls do. They sometimes think with the wrong head....so be wise and be safe. Best of luck.
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (11 March 2008):
 "I am not having any trust issues but I am worried that it may happen again "Thats whats commenly knowen as a Trust Issue.If you Trusted him. you wouldn't worry.I am REALLY restraining from ripping you a new virtual A-hole i REALLY am trying. it WILL happen again. i will lay money on it. he clearly doesn't think much of you to cheat on you. Why the hell would you stay with someone who cheated on you? do you like being used? do you like being cheated on? know that he's out there screwing another women while he's all happy and with you.Do you like being treated like a doormat?girls like you give women a bad name.
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