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writes:My boyfriend is dating other women. We've been together (on and off) for 6 years now. He told me that he's involved with others a few months after our relationship started and I always thought that when we'll get to know each other he'll stop. He says that he loves me and that I'm the one for him, makes plans for us. A few years ago convinced me to do 3 ways with other girlfriends of his, later on he started asking for money and expensive gifts. I feel traped but I also feel that I've invested too much to give up now.I'm very confused and don't know what to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2010): Thank you so much for your answers.
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reader, FloridaCatGirl  +, writes (18 November 2010):
 This is truly sad. Why would you waste another second of your life with someone who makes you miserable? You are still young!!! This man will never commit to you. He views you as a weak doormat that he can use and benefit from when he isn’t out dating other women.
When I was a teenager, I dated a guy for several years who treated me horribly, so I can relate to your situation. My friends thought I was crazy to stay with this guy. I always footed the bill and let him talk me into giving him $500 of my own hard earned money. That is only the tip of the iceberg. This guy was obsessed with me, physically abusive, and would repeatedly cheat on me behind my back. I was blessed with very good looks, but at the time, my self esteem was so low, I may as well have been the ugliest person on the planet because that’s how I felt. Looking back... I can hardly believe I ever put up with him!
Most likely, you feel as if you cannot bear to live your life without this man. As hard as it may seem… I guarantee… if you walk away from this relationship now… you will look back upon it in several years… and thank your lucky stars that you did. In fact… I’m so sure of it, that I would bet a large sum of money on it!
You need to cut him out of your life… cold turkey! Break ALL contact with him. That is the only way you will rid yourself of him and your low self esteem. Likely, he will attempt to beg for your forgiveness and plead for you to take him back… but you need to stay strong and say NO! Whatever you do… PLEASE find the strength to break ties with this man.
If you need support and someone to talk to, you are always welcome to send me a private message. You deserve to be happy! There are so many single guys out there looking for their soul mate. Get this loser out of your life, so you can finally begin living again!!!!
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reader, romany +, writes (18 November 2010):
 What on earth are you confused about!!!! he's a dog, get out, get out now, forget about the time you've invested in him, think about the amount of time you'll save to give to someone else worthy of you.
He has no respect for you, he is getting his cake, trifle and jam bloody doughnuts with icing on.
You need to re read that letter you've written it, and imagine it as your sister, your mum, your best friend, has written it, and think what you'd advise them to do, this bloke has stripped you of your self respect, get it back, and dump him.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (18 November 2010):
 Hon what are you confused about? He's dating other women in addition to be with you that's called cheating, wanting you to do threesomes, asking for money which he probably won't pay you back and expensive gifts..This man is taking you for a ride! It's evident you're being used for sex and money. Cut off this 6 year saga, all you're going to get from it is owed debts, possibly an STD from the other women, and heartache if you continue this apparent relationship. It's not healthy.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 November 2010):
 Yes you have invested to much, but you need to give up now because you have let him think it is ok to be with other women so he is never going to change for you now never, he will never respect you and he will leave you when the one girl comes along that he wants to settle down with and am afraid that its just not going to be you, he is just using you as a doormat and you are letting him walk all over you. Get out now before you end up suffering more.
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