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writes:Me and my boyfriend love each other loads but the problem is we're always arguing over stupid little things and it gets to the point where I slap him and I hate doing it but he gets me so angry. He blames everything on me but I hate the arguing, it puts me down loads. After we have a massive row we have make up sex and it feels like he just starts the argument to have make up sex after. What should I do? Please help!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2007): If you hate slapping him then don't! No matter how mad he makes you he is using words. You have no excuse to strike him! The next time you two have an argument leave. Do not hit him again. It would seem that the two of you would ideally be better off apart than together however. That way each of you can hopefully find other people who can make you happy rather than hurting one another.
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reader, heartbrokenxx +, writes (16 August 2007):
 OMG ur situations almost alike to mine, my boyfriend always tries to blame things on me... it's like his guilty! i dunno... have u tried talking to him about it? if his the kind you can really talk to and get the truth out of UR LUCKYmines like a log sometimes, u gotta push him otherwise ur gettin nothin outta it. i guess, u either hav to break up with him ....or sort it out, if not go on a break and clear ur head and let things cool down maybe its because ur seein each other too much?
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reader, sexi  +, writes (16 August 2007):
 Hi, in a relationship it is normal to have arguments. Everyone doees. My bf and i have really big arguments but i love him as much as he loves me. Try to contain your anger (i know it is very hard to do so with the opposite sex) but remember when the argument id=s over and you have made up, if you had said anything hutful, he would always remember it. When you are arguing be sure to think before you speak because you dont want to say something that you would regret.Try to avoid arguing with him.When you feel a fight coming on,knock it off.Also speak to your bf and tell him that you would like for this moment to be the turning point in your relationship - and you are going to stop fighting/arguing. Try that and see what happens.Take care,mail me if you wanna talk
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (16 August 2007):
 Sounds like you need a bit of anger management? What makes you automatically lash out physically? Normally its when someone feels they are losing the argument.
I havent ever got that make up sex thing. I have to sleep after an argument & start again the next day hehe
Seriously though, i would see someone about the slapping cuz thats not good.
If he winds you up that much & you think he does it for the make up sex, avoid the sex til the next day.
C xxxxx
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (16 August 2007):
 You guys sound like oil and vinegar to me but what really needs to be addressed here is your anger issues. If you are physically striking him then you need to get some help. That is unacceptable behavior on your part no matter how angry he makes you. Why he puts up with it amazes me. Why don't you guys have a break so you can get some anger management counseling? That's my recommendation anyway.
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