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writes:ok, me and my fiancee of 2 yrs. had a wild and crazy night w/his best friend and his girl. well we were switchin partners but the deal was no sex. me and his bf didn't really stick to that. it wasn't much but i feel awful and can't beleive it happened. now my man doesn't trust me and he said he has problems when we have sex. is there any way this can be fixed?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008): It sounds like some evil games going on here, initiated by your boyfriend, with girls being played for fools. This type of test is not wise to do in a relationship, unless the intent is designed to be onesided, which it sounds like it is. I suggest you move on and break things off with this guy, and find new friends. Sharing partners is never a good idea, never!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni appreciate ur opinions but there's more to the story. he put my trust to the test last yr but there were two girls involved and i wasn't there so i don't know what happened. one girl said they had sex all night but he swears they just fooled around. it took me awhile but i believe him and trust him again. what i did happened in Feb. and he understands that i was just kind of goin with the flow. he trusts me somewhat, he's just not completely sure i will never do anything like that again. but i am
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reader, :):):)  +, writes (17 May 2008):
By switching partners, he generally gave you permission to become sexual with his friend. Although you both agreed not to have sex, it is very easy to get carried away.
Agree with each other not to switch partners in the future as this will ultimately cause tension between each of you.
It make take a while but he should grow to trust you again, then hopefully you're sex life will return to normal.
Show him it will never happen again, if possible spend more time together and work on your relationship.
If he still has trust issues in a few months time, suggest you both see a counsellor together. It would be a shame to throw away two years together.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2008): Not unless you have a time machine. I wouldn't trust you ever again, either.
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