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We need help planning our wedding!

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Question - (12 June 2011) 1 Answers - (Newest, 12 June 2011)
A female United States age 30-35, *tayc63088 writes:

I need help! My fiancee and I were planning on getting married in Vegas next January. We have had it all planned out, I didn't want to get married here for numerous reasons. We wanted to do something all inclusive and cheap but still elegant and very few people attending, just our parents and siblings. When looking more seriously into flight options we realized the flights alone would be around $800. And that was the cheapest I found. We had already priced the wedding, the entire package with the additions we wanted came out to $895. Then we were getting a free hotel room from his aunt and the only other things we would need to pay for would be food and cab fares while out there. But seeing now that the flight itself would be about what the whole wedding cost we obviously just can't do it. All the work that goes into a wedding terrifies me. Having it all inclusive was amazing, to have the photographer and officiant included and not have to worry about finding them all was exactly what we wanted. Now we are facing having to get married around here and all the work that is going to have to go along with it.

We weren't planning on having a reception either, neither of our parents have any money to help us out so the wedding is all on us. We figured after we got married we would all go out to a nice restaurant and pretty much have everyone pay for themselves. We clearly don't want anything huge or extravagent. I just don't know all of the factors that go into a wedding. We want to just do the basics but don't want it to look classless and cheap. Another reason why Vegas would have been great for us... We don't want to get married in our house or a backyard, nor do we want it in a church because we are really not religious and don't want that to be any part of our ceremony. I would like it if anyone could tell me price ranges on a photographer, just the ceremony venue (no reception included), an officiant, and flowers. I know it varies by location, and I have looked up online doing checklists for things I just listed and it said $7,000... I don't find that to be correct. The maximum we intended to spend in Vegas for everything including dress, ceremony package, rings, food, flight tickets (we thought they were cheaper), was $3,000. Any help or thoughts please? Any ideas on how to have a cheap but still nice wedding and the basics that go into getting it all to come together, the steps we need to take, who we need to talk to and hire, and any other musthaves I am unaware of. Thanks

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A male reader, C. Grant Canada +, writes (12 June 2011):

C. Grant agony auntJust out of curiosity, what's wrong with a house or back yard?

A couple of generations ago, say before 1950, the point of the wedding was to make your vows in the presence of witnesses. Look at photos from marriages during WWII -- the bride wore her best, but they weren't wearing long flowing white gowns. The groom wore his uniform or his best suit, as did the other men. The bride's mother, and her grandmother, cooked up a meal for the wedding party. It was a family party, not a banquet. Two or three dozen folk joined together to do the best they could to make a nice party for the newlyweds. What's wrong with that?

You're trying to make a low-budget event for your wedding in Vegas. You can do the same anywhere. You don't need an $x,000 dress, you don't need to fly people to somewhere different.

You and your hubbie to be need to figure out who you want to be with you at your wedding. It can be as few as the two of you and a witness; as many as your parents and treasured friends and family. Your wedding is about you exchanging vows that are meaningful in the presence of people who are meaningful. The rest of the stuff -- clothes, banquets -- who cares. You don't need $7,000. You need friends and family.

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