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writes:Hi There, Well the story goes like this.My boyfriend and i have been together for almost 2 yeard and we have a 9mnth old baby as well.last year while I was pregnant I found out that he cheated on me and that the girl was pregnant. I was completely torn and didn't know what to do. He cried and told me how sorry he was and how much he loved me. The girl had an abortion and we eventually worked things out again. Now about 2 months ago I found out again that he cheated on me and we broke up again. I was so so hurt coz I trusted him again because he had promised me the last time that he'd never do it again and like a fool i believed him. We've been trying to work things out ever since and it's been really difficult coz on one hand I feel that I should just let go and move on but on the other hand I just can't seem to do that because i love him so much and we have a child together and he was my first.Two days ago he called me and told me that he loves me but doesn't wanna hurt me so maybe we should just end everything and stop trying. He told me he loves me but htat I'm better off without him because he can't stand to see me so hurt because of him. I couldn't understand this because I though we were busy working things out and sorting out our relationship.Yesterday we spoke and i asked him the real reason why he doesn't want us to be togrther anymore and he told me that this girl called him and told him that she's pregnant. He says he loves me with all his heart and didn't mean to hurt me. Now I'm hopelessly confused. We were just getting back together and now this. I hate him for this...but I love him so much.I really don't know what to do now i am just so hurt and don't know where to from here. What am i supposd to do now?:-(
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): Hi Dear!
Either he loves you or he does not. If he really loves you, he would stop cheating, he does not love you enough. Sorry to have to say that, but you really deserve someone much better than that!
All the best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): hi
plzz leave this guy . he is just too much bad to you.
i totally agree with destiny23. follow it.
soorry for ur situation . i will do pray for you
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): Hi Sista. First of all this is the other sista who had the axact same situation as yours, so i know what i am talking about, i know all the pain, the questions, the if only the other woman did not fall pregnant, the hatred etc. My fiance and i had a daughter together. He cheated and had this girl pregnant. He made her abort the baby. They carried on cheating on me till i was pregant with our 2nd daughter. When i was just 3 months he then told me hed cheated and the girl was also 3 months pregnant.(the same girl that had the abortion) but this time she was keeping the baby. Both our babies are now 2 years old. We tried working things out but believe me when there is a woman and a baby in the picture solutions are 99.99 percent impossible besides leaving him and getting on with your life elsewhere, hopefully with someoone who will have eyes for ONLY YOU. So sorry you also are going through this. With time you will heal and be happy again. Its been a year that i have broken up with my fiance and i have healed now and am glad i got out of the situation. I'm also in RSA, Durban. If you need to talk email me on mihlaleatwebmaildotcodotza. You will get through this.
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reader, destiny23  +, writes (29 September 2008):
 hiya!
i just want to give you a big hug, your head must be everywhere at the minute.
i bet he will do the same to this other girl as what he's done on you, maybe thats why he's broke up with you because he knows within his heart of hearts that he's always going to break your heart and you dont need this because you've got a little baby to look after and if you fall your baby falls with you, so you have to stay strong for your babys sake. it will be hard but you'll look back in time to come and think im glad im not in that situation anymore, believe me it will kill him more seeing you as a strong, confident woman because then it gets him thinking oh my god she's getting on with her life she doesnt need me anymore but keep your chin up huni it'll all get better in time :)
best wishes xx
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