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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I've been dating this guy for a few weeks and by his own admission we aren't technically boyfriend and girlfriend. I'm not even sure if I like him. But I think I could. The problem is that he always wants to be around and says things like, you kept me up all night thinking about you and I don't care what we do tonight as long as I'm with you. I know this may sound weird, but it's all too much for me. He's the first guy I've ever gone out with and the comments combined with calling me all the time, texting me all the time, and always either asking me to go places with him or talking about how he wishes we had more time together are starting to take there toll. I'm a private person, I like a lot of time to myself and I need a lot of 'downtime' after interacting with people. Also, I work 2 jobs and go to school full time so I don't have a lot of time anyways. I get the feeling he wants me to drop my hours, which I can't afford to do.He seems to have a lot of self esteem issues and talks a lot about how almost all of his past relationships ended at the point that we're at right now. I can see why. I feel bad for him, and I guess I have alot of the same issues because there is a part of me that wants to stay with him because I think he's the only guy that'll like me. I've tried talking to him about it but it doesn't seem to help, all it does is make him think that I don't like him at all. Should I end it?
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reader, shandygirl +, writes (29 September 2008):
 I have had relationships where I felt the way you do, because I wasn't into them. My current BF says nice things like this to me, and I love it, because I love him.
If you REALLY liked this guy, then you would welcome the way he is. Apparently you don't. Why be with someone that you don't want to be with? What's the point? Think about it.
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reader, NeverGoodEnough  +, writes (29 September 2008):
 Personally I think you should end it, if the comments and calls are getting too much now imagine what its gonna be like in 6 months time, I myself like my own private time and theres nothing worse than dating somebody who cant understand that.
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