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writes:I work sometimes with a guy who is married we had a fling not all the way. I know it is wrong I will be seeing him next week and I plan on acting like nothing happened. I feel anxious about it already because I'm so attacted to him. If he rejects me I will feel awful. How can I have peace about this whole thing?? Reply to this Question
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reader, bebe87 +, writes (8 October 2011):
 You’re worried that you will get rejected?? WOW That is another woman’s husband! Now, whether he has no conscious about his wife and what sort of damage he could do well that’s on him, but that certainly doesn’t mean that you have to be his go-to girl for probably just sex. Imagine how his wife would feel reading your post!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2011): Agree w Bernard. Think about this, how would his wife feel knowing her husband fell out on her w you, talk about not having peace. You need to step aside and be able to have empathy for others, ESP in your age range. Maybe if more people were less selfish and more considerate, ahh what a different society this would be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2011): You would feel a whole lot more rejected if you were that mans wife. Stop worrying over something that can't be, look outside of work to meet people and I hope you find a single man who is trustworthy, honest and kind. As a man who embarks on an affair no matter how charming is none of those things. X
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (8 October 2011):
 I don't think you will get good advice on the future of something that shouldn't be made present. If you want peace it is what a committed relationship is for.
Rejection is a big thing. It triggers our sense of worth and identity. Always remember the most successful people were the ones who got rejected the most because they tried and tried and did not give a damn about what people think. It has nothing to do with your attractiveness, your desirability of your genes.
I think the best peace you can give to yourself is to reject him first. There are many available men who you will find attractive.
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