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anonymous
writes:My friend Adam and I have both had heterosexual histories...however, I have been having sexual fantasies about him since I was about 13. Nothing ever happened but the last time we got drunk together, we were walking on a trail. He suggested we get naked...and we did. It was really cold, so we got dressed after a few minutes. But wow...do you think this is an invitation to sex?
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reader, citic101  +, writes (30 June 2009):
 yes sounds like they could be a lot more in this. Next time tell him that you like him a LOT and see what he says , if he is your friend and you have the wrong end of the stick shouldn't be to much harm done. Good luck
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reader, NightLad  +, writes (29 June 2009):
 Hello,
Because these feelings have been with you for a while they may be indicative of something more. Sexuality is not always black or white, and for many people there are often various shades of grey at certain points in their life or throughout their life.
If your friend reciprocates these feelings to some degree, and you wish to explore them, than that is something you will have to decide for yourself. Understand that whenever a friendship crosses into a sexual nature it is bound to change the dynamics of that relationship. I recommend you try to find a way to have a frank and open discussion with your friend prior to engaging in any type of sexual activities. Understand how each of you view the situation, and affirm how your relationship will continue afterwards.
This said, even if you were to explore these feelings with your friend, I do not feel it would demand you adopt the ‘gay’ or even ‘bisexual’ label for your sexuality. At least, not without establishing a pattern of attraction to other males. From what you’ve said this would seem to be a highly specific case.
What I suggest you do is read up on the American Psychological Association’s definition of Sexual Orientation. Perhaps it can help you sort out some of these feelings and give you perspective. I am not suggesting you should label what you feel just yet, only familiarize yourself with the terms. That information can be found here: http://www.apa.org/topics/sorientation.html
I hope this helps.
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reader, MaryK +, writes (29 June 2009):
 I too am currently considering taking the step youre thinking about taking with a few female friends of mine. If it turns you on, go for it. Something tells me that he seems interested too. Take it slow but dont let it pass you by either....
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (29 June 2009):
It's an invitation to something. Maybe not sex just yet.
Rushing into sex can be pretty scary so why not take it slow.
Invite him over and maybe suggest you get naked if it's a hot night.
Then make a really small move, tell him you think he's got a good body or something. See how he reacts.
Tiny tiny steps.
Good Luck!! xx
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