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writes:Ok so me and this guy been there for each other but the thing is he is 19 and im just turning 15 and we really dont know if its right to date. We liked each other for a really long time, and he has met my parents and everything and he even said to me that we wont do nothing unless I agree with it. But the whole 4 year age difference really puts it to a stop and we are really confused about things on what would/could happend to us. any answers for this to help us out? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk thanks for telling me all this great stuff. But he is a really good guy and he never tryed to pressure me into things, like he always said to me he is happy with everything long as im happy. so i think things mite work out we had a super long talk about this last night and everything went well thanks everyone
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): i have the same problem, i am 15 and i like a 11 (turning 12) year old girl. im not happy with that idea i want un-love tht girl but have come to the solution wait since she is my neibor and boss's daughter. the only thing i can tell u is follow your heart, if he makes you happy, and respects chasity go and date him because in life some people shouldnt fall inlove but they do, this is where you need to connect the dots and look ahead. Just lisn to ur heart
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (3 January 2010):
 If you say that you 'lost' your virginity, and the guy is no longer in the picture, that's about the best description of WHY you shouldn't hang out with older guys. They are more experienced, have more expectations, and you are more likely to 'lose' it to a guy like that ~ even if you do like him.
Wouldn't you want to 'share' your first time with the guy that you want to form a permanent bond with instead?
You are only 15 or younger and there is absolutely no reason why you should be considering moving that fast in order to catch up to his level of expertise, which will probably be his expectation, sorry to say.
Another factor that you may not realize is that his contemporaries probably all find his dating someone your age is not very cool because he should be able to find someone his own age to date. When my kids were his age, they would have though that he was a big loser - nothing personal, but why date a guy who everyone else thinks is a loser?
You might not like these comments, but I have seen this in real life, and you deserve someone who truly loves you and who isn't going to lead you astray, my young friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2010): when you think about it age shouldnt matter when you like someone. if they are nice and as long as they dont pressure u into anything then it really doesnt matter. when i was 16 i lost my virginity to a man 11 years older than me ans we started seeing each other for a year and a half, i cant say i regret a single second i spend with him and although your parents may have something to say about it, he makes you happy which is the most important thing
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reader, limestar23 +, writes (2 January 2010):
Well I dont think dating for you two is a bad thing... you've known each other for a long time right? and if u really like him it shouldn't matter. I'd just make sure your parents and his parents are alright with the age difference because if not your parents could potenitally charge him with rape or somethin like that since he's over the age of 18 I'd just make sure its ok with your parents and such and date him if you like him.. Good Luck
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 January 2010):
Nothing is wrong with an age gap, so long as everything is legal and you're happy and safe. Hold off with him until you're at the age of consent, then nothing bad can happen.
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