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writes:Hey everyone, my cousin asked me for advice but I seriously can't figure this girl out... (you'll understand me in a couple of seconds)He met a girl about a year ago, she was instantly attracted to him but he didn't like her that much. They were in french class together so they started hanging out. This girl started to give mix signals to my cousin which droved him mad! He asked her out, she said yes! and everything went great. He told me that the kisses were really passionate, she was obviously very attracted to him but then she just stopped... she wasn't answering his phone calls anymore, she just stopped liking him. My cousin went to see her and the minute she saw him, she ran to him, started to kiss him, she was being all nice, cute, tender. BUT After that night, she stopped answering his phone calls, txt mssages, etc AGAIN. She blew him off over facebook saying a lame excuse about being "too different"After that, my cousin knew he had to get her to like him again, so he started seeing another girl for a bit(make her jealous) he didn't pay much attention to her anymore(indifference) and although everything worked (the girl started to flirt again with him) one day he asked her out again (while they were kissing and hugging) and she said "NO, I can't I'm really busy this week." So my cousin does not understand his situation at all. I don't know what to tell him, because I can't figure the girl out either.. any suggestions of what is going through the girl's mind?
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (10 March 2011):
 She is playing games, your cousin is playing games..
Tell him to find someone he actually cares about, not someone he doesn't really like, but is fun chasing.. It's a waste of time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2011): I am at a loss ... why did he feel (after she treated him badly) that he had to try to win her back? Is he deranged? Masochistic, perhaps?
I would tell your cousin to run a mile from this young lady, she obviously enjoys the chase, but does not like to be caught. In other words, she will enjoy him pursuing her, but she does not want a boyfriend (and that's her prerogative, of course).
I think he should get on with life and forget all this drama - life is too short.
By the way, his tactics for "winning her back", to make her jealous and to feign indifference - give me strength! What is this, an episode of 90210?! Stop playing games and concentrate on school and having fun.
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reader, poisonous  +, writes (10 March 2011):
well maybe she does not really want to get into a relation..and just want to have fun :)
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (10 March 2011):
 Who knows maybe she has a boyfriend back home or somewhere else. Maybe she doesn't think her family would approve.
Are they different races or religions? Maybe she is mentally damaged who knows...
Whatever the reason is doesn't really matter because she is acting way to flaky to even be considered datable anymore.
Tell you cousin to let her go and move on.
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