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writes:Well i have a question to ask the community i just recently broke up with my ex fiancee i want to give some sort of background we together for 6 years we had our ups and down i was very immature and lied because she had trust issues with me i admit it was my fault i was very immature i did not know better but now i do its just sad that it had to take me losing her for me to find out but that's life and it gives you hard lessons we broke up 7 months ago we talked for 5-6 months just me trying to get her back but recently last month we have not talked at all she messages me for happy xmas and happy bday but that's all i have been very hurt and i want her back more than anything but i have left her alone because all she wanted to be was just friends and i could not do that it would hurt so much.I said we shouldnt talk she has told my sister since that she wanted to be friends and she would have not been ok with me having a girlfriend if we stayed friends so i said it would be best for both of us to just stop talking so we did now i still want her back and miss her so much i want to send her something for valentine's day i just want to know what exactly i should send her i dont want to make it seem like im using it to get her back because im not i just want to send her something real nice because she meant alot to me so if you ladies and guys also can give me some suggestions? i would really appreciate it thanks
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reader, wants2bhappy  +, writes (1 February 2011):
my advice would be. Dont send her anything, because she won't appreciate it. Speaking from experience. One it is over, it is over. No point to send anything, it will just take her further and further from you. It must be hard for yiu to go through this, but move on, and 4-5 months down the line, you will be happy again and have already forgotten about all this. All you will left with is memories. Friendship wont work, it cannot work after a relationship because one person always wants more, which is in this case YOU.
MOVE ON with your life and allow yourself to be open for your new chapter and perhaps your new love.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (1 February 2011):
 Punctuation much?
My eyes were going in circles due to the lack of periods in your paragraph so let me see if I got this straight. So you want to get your ex fiance something for Valentine's day, but this isn't a ploy to get her back? Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong.
So why are you even bothering to get her something for Valentine's Day when you are supposed to be moving on? Honestly, it's NEVER a good idea to get your ex something for Valentine's Day because it makes you appear desperate and shows that you haven't moved on. However if you insist, then I would send her a card. Pick out a funny, cute one; not a romantic, deep thoughts one. That's it.
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