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writes:I'm not sure if I'm pregnant or not. This is all new to me sex and all. I've been having sex with my boyfriend at least twice on the weekends. Sometimes 4 times. Sometimes he pulls out sometimes not. I know you can get preggers pulling out. Lately I've just felt weird. My stomach will cramp up randomly and after sex, I've been starving 24/7 the past week. I'm moody like way more then pms. And I keep getting heart burn from anything I eat. I thought I had my days right but Jan 19th and 20th where 'high fertility' days. And ovulation on the 23rd. I'm suppost to get my period Feb 6th. Are these signs of early EARLY pregnancy? I don't have a problem with being preg. at all. I've wanted a baby since I was young. He on the other hand never wants anymore babies. He had 2 and his exes took both of them and he never gets to see them. He is scared to death that it will happen with me too. I've been trying to convince him that I would never do that but he is stuck on what happened in the past. Oh when is the soonest I can take a test?Thanks Everyone :)
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reader, wants2bhappy  +, writes (1 February 2011):
Please get a pregnancy test and if you are not pregnant yet, USE protection. Contraceptions are free. yes you want a baby, but into what relationship? It would be so unfair to that poor baby to bring him into this. Secondly, having baby is hard work and without support, it is unbelieavably hard. Think about the baby, not yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2011): I would never just have sex with just anyone to have a baby. It took me forever to start with him. Plus if Im not in a relationship I don't plan on having sex. He says he'd stay if I ever am but it's always in the back of my mind, you know? My dad said the same thing is why it worries me so much.
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reader, thruxton +, writes (1 February 2011):
 Your BF is obviously irresponsible. He knows how babies are made since he has done it already with 2 other women.
And you want a baby so bad, that you are willing to have one with "anybody". Which, of course, is what you are going to get. Just a sperm donor and then you'll raise junior on your own. It's a quick way to poverty so if it's not too late, start using condoms EVERY TIME.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (1 February 2011):
 The only way you know if you are pregnant or not is by taking a pregnancy test. When you can use one, and how to, is written on the box of the pregnancy test. Go buy one at the pharmacy, and you will figure it out.
However I seriously doubt your boyfriends sincerity and maturity, and not at least intelligence. I realize you do not know much about sex, but he obviously does as he's already fathered two children.
Sex = baby making. If you're not using protection then DUH, yes you will get pregnant at some point. You should know this much, if you didn't then you need to read up on it. You're an adult, how in the wold can you be ignorant of your own health. Im not saying this to put you down, but Im disappointed that you take this little care of yourself.
As for your boyfriend, I doubt his sincerity with you because if he didn't want more children then he'd educate you on how to avoid pregnancy, and he'd also take the responsibility to use protection!
If I were you I'd reconsider this relationship based solely on his extreme level of immaturity and lack of responsibility. In addition if he and his children are in the same country he has legal rights to see his children. The fact that he's given up and just claims he never gets to see them shows how much he's truly bothered. If he actually cared he'd fight for his right to see his children, not impregnate you while claiming he doesn't want any more children.
Please, get yourself a pregnancy test, test right away, and start to use protection. Then read up on sex so you understand what you are doing. Educate yourself for heavens sake before a child is brought into this world by pure ignorance. That's not fair to the child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2011): Well he doens't seem all that concerned with your getting pregnant. I don't think he's as stuck as you think he is, oterhwise he would be careful. I would also consider, that if he is so careless with you getting pregnant, then his problem is not with the woman; it's with him. There may be alot more to the stories of his exes than you think there is and he knkows they have a reason enough for taking the kids. However with you, he feels he can do the right thing but he still tells you he's scared of you leaving, because he knows there's a chance he won't be able to do the right thing. And by acting scared, he will always have an out for in case he needs to bolt.
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