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writes:I am in Love with a Young Lady 25 years younger. She loves me as well. Will this relationship work 15 to 20 years from now? Why? support your response. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2011): It really depends. If she's 25 and you're 50, by the time she's 50 and you're 75, expect her to have done lots of changing. If you can adapt to her changes (and she can adapt to your growing old), then it can work. It's a big age gap. (I was in a 20-yr age difference relationship, which lasted for 23 years. It had its great moments, but eventually we drifted apart. I changed alot, he changed not-so-much). I'm not a huge fan of big age differences anymore!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2011): Your 4 line questions does not provide much to go on. Were you doing a snap pole. You obviously know that u want to be with this young girl. How old is she?
Relationships vary. Yours might run its course very soon or not at all.
Be realistic when it comes to relationships. It is an almost guarantee that you will die before her, and at a much younger age. ( Sorry if this sound morbid but it is a reality that men die younger). Will you leave sufficient funds for her to live her life with another 'soulmate'
I am privy to many peoples will. Men (generally) state that they hate the fact that their young gfs are going to outlive them and they will enjoy the older mans money with young lovers.(Sorry I know I am going off the topic but if you can see the bigger picture , this is related)
I say as long as you did not hurt anyone and did not destroy someone elses life to be together, there is a good chance that you will stand the test of time. If you cheated on your spouse, betrayed someone, the likelihood of a long standing relationship diminishes. Like I said you basically have not provided much info .
But on the lighter side:
Remember Woody Allen who helped himself to his stepdaughter? They are still together.
LoveGirl
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2011): Follow your heart but consider how it might hurt her. Widow, single granmother, etc. Also let her be her age. Do not "father" her. You are older and wiser and she will seem dumb and naive eventually but you MUST resist becoming the father figure because that eventually becomes gross and unnattractive. I,m speaking from experience 23 yr age dif. now 54 yr old widow.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2011): There is no gaurantee in life regardless of age differences. If youre both sure you love each other go for it so many people confuse love with sex-two different things.
True love is hard to find and if you both really love each other then so be it dont worry about the age gap
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2011): Writers Response-Thank each of you for your responses Theres always a question in everything we do in life But I'm willing to follow my heart with prayerful consideration and I am confident our Love will last
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reader, xanthic +, writes (2 February 2011):
 Love isn't always enough, you need to think about the reality of living with this person and sharing your life with her. It would be foolish to think love is all you need to have a successful relationship. You're both in completely different stages of life, and always will be.
For the sake of this example let's say she's 25 and you're 50 (because I'm hoping she's not 16 and you're 41, that's disgusting). She's at the age where she's ready to start a family and the next chapter of her adult life. Will you be able to keep up with raising a 10 year old at 60-65? By the time your child graduates high school, you'll be almost or over 70. Although this is all hypothetical, do you really see this as being an ideal situation?
On the other hand, what if you don't want children at all at this point in your life? If she does, is it really fair to expect her to compromise at only 25 years old?
Bottom line, age most definitely does matter. You may genuinely love each other, and that's wonderful, but it's not enough to make things work long-term.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2011): i am in the same scenario, except, im the 25 year old, with a 50 year old.
i can honestly say that it can work. and does. i dont plan on leaving and do want to be in this relationship.
if this girl is your sole mate and loves you like you say she does, then enjoy what you have now, and not worry about what could happen later in life.
live for the moment, not everyone is as lucky to find real love...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2011): Age is not that important, it is a young spirit that counts. Enjoy the 'now' and for the future I would take care of your health, keep active (mind and body)and be hopeful - that's all most of us can do with the future in mind.
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reader, Sensesfail101 +, writes (1 February 2011):
relationships are made from love trust and respect. People say age matters. It doesnt! Im witha seventeen yr older man and have been for two years. People said we wood break up within a month. Well.... Lol trust love and respect is allll u need. No one else needs to tell u if u can work or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2011): With the amount of details that you're giving, it's hard to say but I would say that in general I don't think that such an age gap can work. You're in different stages of your life and she's probably impressed by you right now. But the fact is, as she gets more life experience and as you get older, she will realize that you may not be what she wants and that there are millions of other guys - younger than you - out there. I had a LTR with a man 13 years older than me that I met in my early 20s. It did last a while, but in the end we just grew apart. A 25 years age diff is huge! Almost embarassing. In my recent dating, I have yet to understand why guys in their 30s and 40s are all looking for girls in their early 20s, I think it's because they're insecure...
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (1 February 2011):
 Why not? You two are in love for a reason and whatever reason that may be, I am certain age has absolutely nothing to do with it. If you are both willing, this relationship can work.
I hope that helps.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (1 February 2011):
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reader, loveitlongtime +, writes (1 February 2011):
 Yes I believe it can work, I questioned myself with a scenario like this when I was 18 I was in love with a 36 year old, he also loved me to, we never made it public but we stayed together for a year, he had two kids and a wife so it neve worked out that way, but the only thing that could be true is eventually she might look for someone else, personally I would, but it all depends honey on this womans character.
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reader, 1000lies1000sorrys +, writes (1 February 2011):
 I might be young but I know that you need to follow your heart it's there to show you what to do man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2011): Yes, because you love each other. As long as she's cool with being a widow (obviously).
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