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writes:My ex and I had a horrible break-up. We were only together a few months, however I was living with him and going to work with him everyday. We spent 24/7 together. He wronged me by lying and playing head games. THAT I know. We stopped talking, even though it was more on his part, as I was constantly catching him out on lies. However, yesterday I was informed that his myspace status sounded really sad... he said he was lonely etc. I know he suffers with depression like I do, therefore I have empathy towards him. So I sent him a very short text wishing him a merry xmas, happy birthday (his birthday is soon) and new year. Very to the point. Now I feel like a complete idiot, especially since I promised myself a couple weeks ago and even told him I'm breaking off all contact. I am not going to contact him again. Just I didn't want to be mean... because despite everything, all the bad words said, I did have feelings for him, and still do (even though I know we can never be together)... and I wanted to end the new year on a more positive not.I still feel like I have done the wrong thing though. Oh and I got no reply. Did I do the wrong thing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2008): Don't feel bad, I'm in the same boat. I sent my ex a very simple Christmas greeting email and text message. He hasn't responded. I wasn't mad, I'm just disappointed of him. I know that I shouldn't expect any return, but I think it would be a good manner to return the good wishes, even your enemy. Right ?? I don't know how guys think.
You need to pick your pride up off the ground if you have any hope of moving on and getting a better life. No contact is the way to go because it works, we know what we are talking about because we have all been through it.
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reader, xmarikax +, writes (21 December 2008):
xmarikax is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the replies. I don't feel as bad now. Although I have to say he treated me awfully and used me, and I have said a lot of mean things back, putting up my guard in self defense, I don't have it in me to be cruel forever, especially when he seems very pitiful at the moment. I don't expect an answer back, ever.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (21 December 2008):
No you just sent a text! You didn't mean anything by it. You didn't imply that you were going to get back with him.
You just said hi.
That's done so move on and leave him in his little myspace puddle of self pity.
Good Luck!! xx
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