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anonymous
writes: i love my boyfriend and have been dating for 5 yr, we both know we want different things in future. im ready to start thinking of future while he wants to continue as we are. wot do i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, mcbirdie +, writes (20 May 2007):
 You don't give much to go on here. It depends on what your differences are and how stuck you both are on those.
Is it marriage you're after? Have you spoken to him about it? If he is just not wanting to move the relationship forward because he doesn't think he needs to, he may change his mind if he sees it is important to you. If he is against marriage in general, or doesn't think it will work with you, he will be less likely to and you may want to move on.
If what you're wanting is children or living somewhere else or something else that is a lifestyle change, people are disinclined to change their minds and are less likely to do well if they do. It all depends.
Talk to him. Find out how set you both are and consider your actions from there.
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reader, DV1  +, writes (20 May 2007):
 This is one of the most difficult crossroads of any relationship. A big mistake girls do is to get into a relationship, become serious, and then decide that the other parts of life are more important. If you can't picture the future including your work and you partner, or if there is a commitment problem, then it's time to move on.
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