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writes:Okay here goes. I am seperated and I have a friend of the opposite sex who is also sepereated so we have a lot in common. We have some of the same friends and he is really good friends with my older brother. Well we have hooked up while seperated and it was awesome. We are reallu good friends also and we have both agreed for it not to happen again because we are both still married and we are both afraid of what would happen to our friendship and his friendship with my brother if things did not work out between us. We both actually would like to try and the chemistry between us is awesome so awesome people ask all the time what is up with us and we both use the excuse we are just really good friends. we enjoy one another so much. and we talk daily several times a day. help what should we do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2009): the friend into lovers thing rarely works. and well affairs just frizzle out in any even.
what have you decided about your marriage and is he still committed to his?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell we decided that we are better off friends we tried out a relationship and it just did not work. everything is good between us.
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reader, Azula  +, writes (9 July 2009):
 All I can say is that you are in the state of longing.
Since you have lost the glow of your first marriage you feel like you also lost a part of yourself and a way of gaining it is through another person. That's when the need arises. Then here comes the trigger, it is that you see a lot of similarities on him and you kinda relate and understand him and in the other way you feel being understood too, knowing that you are undergoing a similar path you would probably fill each others needs.
Here's some questions to be answered.
Are you really ready to give up everything and take a risk?
Will it be worth a try?
Will I not regret entering this roller coaster?
Is he as serious as me?
How long can he hold on? how long can I?
Then some other questions you want to clear.
Should we continue or not.
Make a decision.Don't regret it.Stand what you have chosen.
Good luck and best wishes.
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reader, quarky  +, writes (9 July 2009):
 I'm separated too and ask myself the same thing and although I've met someone, it's very early days.
OK so technically, you're still married and yes, it would be 'proper' to wait until you're both divorced to get involved in another relationship. But life doesn't work like that-you've met someone you want to be with.
I don't think you should wait-grab the opportunity while you can-life's too short!
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