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writes:ive been dating this guy on and off for six months, we've had our fair share of arguments and we always end it, and i always try to move on but a few days later he texts me saying sorry and i always give him another chance. This has happened a lot, we argue.. he treats me like shit..we dont speak...then he says sorry...so i give him another chance even when sometimes i know i shouldnt!! but last week we argued so bad that i dont think i want to give him another chance coz i wanna prove that im not so weak, but he has text me again apologising and even tho im telling him i think we should just be mates, im dying to get back with him...so what do i do? shall i leave him and move on, or shall i give him another chance but make him suffer a lot before i give in so i know he wont do it again i need answers asap thanks xx
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reader, Anon555 +, writes (29 April 2008):
 I was in the same situation as you. on, off, on again, off again, etc... Before i new it i had wasted 2yrs of my life. I would always end it and he would always text me saying "i'm sorry, i'll change", but it kept going wrong. Then 11 weeks ago i ended it, changed my number and avoided him. I've never felt better. yes there were times when i thought "i miss him" but its only cuz i feel lonely and i know he's there. I suggest you end it now (if your like this after only 6mths - the "honeymoon" period - what will you be like a few months/years down the line?). Be strong, stay busy, and get your mates to rally round you. Trust me, in a few weeks you'll feel fabulous and looking for someone ten times better. Good Luck.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (29 April 2008):
 So you know HE wont do it again? He cant be arguing with himself? It takes 2. But i know how you feel. Its damn frustrating when you love someone but you cant stop clashing! If i was you 2 i would go for some counselling and try to sort out why you argue and how to avoid it. Because its a nightmare. Ive split from someone before because of it, but i have kids and cant be putting them through that, even though there was no violence, its still not a good atmosphere to be in.
Maybe you 2 are angry with each other about something? Or you literally clash because you both want to be right.
But its easier said than done to just agree to disagree, if only it were that simple. I think you need to go a bit further than that and go for couple counselling.
Could do the trick.
C xxxx
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