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writes:Me and my bf have been going on and off on our relation ship i want to have sex with him and he wants to have sex with me we are both ready but neither of use want to go buy condoms let alone he is to embarrassed to go get them and neither of us knows how to tell our parents that we want to sleep together and it is hard because I am white and he is part black and I really love him but my dad is racist and if we did have sex with out our parents knowing we would not know were to go let alone get to a private place please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFirst off thanks for your comments second ok so it is not that we are embarrassed it is that every were we go our parents are there so we don't get the time to buy them and when we are alone we are not in a store to buy them.what should i do because if i tell my dad that i want to sleep with my boyfreiend he will flip because i am white and he is part black and i can't really tell my mom because she is a bitch to me and i can't trust her. What should i do?
any advise will help
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reader, Jamer70  +, writes (7 December 2007):
 deejuliet said it all. Too embarresed to buy em, you'll be more embarresed explaining your possible pregnancy or STD. So you got either women up or wait til you can im afriad
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (6 December 2007):
 I think Juliet hit the nail on the head. If you aren't mature enough to buy Condoms without bailing out due to embarrassment, then you clearly aren't ready to be having Sex. It sounds as if you would rather just not bother and have Sex unprotected, risking pregnancy and disease. Is it worth the risk?
If you are too embarrassed to buy condoms, then don't bother having Sex at all. Wait for the day where you are mature to buy condoms without getting embarrassed. I understand it can be an embarrassing thing when you are new to it, but it's something people just have to do sometimes.
So, you can do 1 of 3 things:
1) Don't bother with the condom, have Sex and take needless risks
2) Wait until you are mature enough to do it without feeling embarressed to the point of bailing out of it.
or 3) Show some maturity, and buy them.
I think if you wanted Sex with eachother badly enough, you would be able to take the 3rd option without hesitation. So, the choice is yours, but I strongly recommend you use the protection.
If there's anything else you want to know, send me a message.
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reader, Megan Deetes +, writes (6 December 2007):
 Hi
Sometimes condoms can be bought in the vending machines in toilets, that way you dont have to face the embaressment of buying them at a counter, you could always get a very close friend to buy them for you or he could ask one of his friends. Whatever happens be sure you use them!!!! You are mature and old enough to make your own desisions about sex and you may want to talk to your dad about the insignificance of racial difference. If your parents consent or you don't need thier consent you could always go away with him for the weekend and stay at a hotel ;) people do it all the time on thier honeymoons and after all you do love him :D xx
Good Luck and be sure to check your contraception because condoms are only 98% effective message me if you feel you need further help xxxx
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (6 December 2007):
 If you are too embarrassed to buy condoms than you really arent ready for sex yet. If you think that will be embarrassing, how embarrassing will it be when you have to announce an unplanned pregnacy or, worse, get a venereal disease treated? The two of you are still very young and should wait a bit longer. If you are really meant to be together, than waiting will not hurt at all. Why rush?
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