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writes:i need help,my boyfriend dumped me yesterday afternoon and wont return any of my calls. i txt him saying im coming round his house. he then txt me saying he was out. i know he was in cuz i saw his lights on, which he then switched off. i then got a txt saying there was nothing to talk about. i really want to talk. do you guys think i should leave it or keep on? the other thing is he goes to the same pub as I do, and i dont really want to see him there, or stop him from going there. please help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2007): Well, OF COURSE, he isn't going to want to talk to you again when he dumped you!! He ended it: that means he does not want any further contact - and there had to have been a reason to end it. What did he tell you when he gave the bad news?
I'm in agreement with the other aunts. Do not try to get in touch with him. Furthermore, maybe you could find another pub to go to for a while - hate for you to have to be the one to do that, but it might be best right now, since he MIGHT stop going himself, but you have no way of knowing that.......
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (6 December 2007):
 You should give the whole situation a cooling off period, at least a week or two. If you still have to talk with him about the break-up after that, then call him and ask him to meet you for one drink. If he doesn't respond to the request, then you should just walk away. Keep your dignity here and eventually, when you look back, you won't have any regrets or second-guess the actions that you took during this difficult time. Hounding him won't get you any answers or get you back together. Move on with your life and get back to having fun with friends and family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2007): I meant once you STOP pushing him away and pressuring him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2007): IF this guy dumped you there was a reason for it....did you have a fight? Do not under any circumstances call him or text him for at least two weeks, at least....let him get word from your friends that you have moved on.....something may happen to make him look you up once you start pushing him away and pressuring him, he will see that it is all in his mind, that you aren't too clingy, pressuring him or any of the things men usually freak out about....it could be that he is getting more attached to you, and is scaring himself by blaming you for his uncomfortable feelings....or it could be that he is no longer the least bit interested in you. If you don't leave him alone to see what happens, you may never be able to tell which scenario it is with him....back off. In the meantime go about your own life and do the things YOU enjoy.
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reader, Megan Deetes +, writes (6 December 2007):
 It sounds like your getting a bit desperate now :S think about it like this, if he didn't have a justified reason for breaking up with you he wouldn't want to talk about it it'd be really awkward for him and besides it sounds like you really miss him, if he's not prepared to see that he's really not woth anything to you. move on because he clearly is go down the pub with confidence- you're sooo much better than him and when he sees you with that confidence you'll make him jelous don't change your life because of him after all its not HIS pub :) xxx message me if you need more help :) xxxxxxxx
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