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writes:I'm a gay man in SF...I'm in a relationship (5) years now with a man who confuses me. I'm 38, he's 53 but the age difference doesn't really matter...in many ways we are well matched. We disagree about sex...I want monogamy, he doesn't. The neighborhood and the community here is very "party" oriented and I've become leary of my partners honesty. We've made agreements, he's not kept them, I've been hurt...etc. Since so much works well, I don't want to end it...but...the "baggage" has really gotten to me and affects my everyday life and happiness. What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, philipgifts +, writes (8 May 2009):
 I would leave him, bc you seem unhappy with him. "Monogamy in greek means mono, one or alone and gamy, marriage or union" I think this game is not going to stop, look at his age, he is a bachalor. I don't think you should wait another five years or more for him to change. Patience in waiting is nice but you shouldn't have to wait forever, right. If you do leave him right a quick letter and leave, bc you may be preswayed into staying, with promisses of change witch will never happen, he'll up his a game to keep the guys out of sight. And even if it is sincer, you can't be sure, bc he's lied way to many times, enough is enough, period.
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