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becky320
writes:Recently my best friend let me know he has a crush on me and cannot stop thinking about me. Problem is, he is married. I am single and I find him atractive, if only he were not married... I let him know I would like to keep being his friend but that he cannot lose sight of what is truly important for him: his family. Going forward, I just don't know how to treat him. I don't know if I should continue to talk to him as usual or if I should avoid him for a while. Another thing, he keeps throwing comments at me that reinforce the fact that he likes me. I'd hate to lose his friendship though. Thanks.
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reader, KayKayKay  +, writes (29 January 2008):
Why don't you go talk to his wife about it? If you decide to have a relationship with him, you will also have a relationship with her. This is especially true of there are children. You will get to see her at birthdays, weddings, funerals...You like him...but...are you ready to deal with ALL the REAL LIFE issues that come with getting involved with a married man? Is he? Or is this just a fun fantasy thing for you (ooohhh...I love what is hard to get...)If he says "yes" to you but won't leave his wife...will you be able to cope? Will he? Will she? How about your family, his family and the wife's family? They will know about each other and cross paths. People will label and brand all three of you for the rest of your livesOH there's [name of wife], you know [name of husband] cheated on here with [insert your your name here], but he wouldn't leave [name of wife]. Of course [your name here] is so desperate she keeps holding on...Or whatevere script you want to write.YOUR CHOICE WILL CHANGE FOR FUTURE FOR EVER.Make the choice that will cause you the least amount of painOh, and don't forget...even if he does leave his wife and marries you...you will ALWAYS have the peace of knowing that, as a married man, he has no qualms about flirting with single woman at work.If you OK with that...I say...GO FOR IT!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (15 January 2008):
 I'd do him a favor and avoid him for a while. I don't mean being impolite but try avoid being in his company as much as possible. He needs to sort himself out and you don't want to be a distraction.
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reader, Annalisa  + ♥, writes (15 January 2008):
 A married person's best friend should be their partner, not someone else of the opposite sex. I think you should cool off a little and try to find another best friend!
You can only get hurt and cause pain to others by getting involved with a married man.
If you want a man in your life, think of the qualities you would like to find in him and go places where such men are found. A new man will be refreshing and probably more trust worthy. After all, if your friend can cheat on his Mrs, what's to stop him cheating on you?
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2008): If I were you... I would "Cool Down" your relationship with him.
He is married... Right? If he were married to you, how would you feel if he had another woman on the side? It just isn't right, and you know it. Have some respect for his wife, the same way that you would want respect.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (14 January 2008):
 The juicy red cherry looks very tempting but it is poisonous. You can have a heart to heart talk to him and be firm about your friendship and nothing more.Ask him to stop and he will get your message.You need to pour cold water on him .
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