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writes:This question should be realitively short, but basically i'm trying to find ways to get my emotions out? And it sound strange, but I need help. I have one or two mental health disorders, and I have always beleived the reasons I have these is simply because I have so many emotions and stuff inside me that I never managed to release. I feel like I have to do this, or its going to effect myself, my family and my current relationship, simply because each day it feels like i'm walking around with a bag full of emotions that I don't need. I have alot of anger and mistrust inside of me, my aunt died at the end of last year due to cancer, I was in an abusive relationship for 9 months and the abuse still continued even once we had ended for another 6 months, and my trust was betrayed by my current boyfriend who cheated on me mutiple times in the first 3 months. I just want to find away to let it all out and try and feel better, and I was just wondering, is there any useful ways in which I can get all the anger, sorrow, mistrust, hurt, and just in general negativity out of me?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (1 May 2013):
 OP thank you for the follow up.
I can see why your aunt's death was so hard for you and I can promise you as you age and mature you will come to see things differently. It may take 15-20 years but it does happen.
I'm glad you have a counselor and are close to your mom. Those are good things too.
Just remember that we can choose our friends. We can MAKE our family (to me family are the people we choose to spend time with) we cannot PICK our relatives (those related by blood) and once you are legally an adult, you have every right to choose who you do and do not associate with and you owe NOTHING to relatives that mistreat you either physically, mentally or emotionally. Just remember everyone grieves a loss differently and they were grieving too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI already see a counsiller, which does help. She wasn't my primary carer no, but I was close to her. Are relationship was very strong when I was a child, and well over the last few years before her illness are relationship had suffered, her illness brought us back together in a way, we had planned to spend more time with eachother once she was better. It was so tramatic due to the fact it was all of a sudden, she was doing great, had so much fight left in her, and then within 3 days she was gone. It also hurt because it split are family apart, I live with my mum and grandma, we all had one last opportunity to see her before she died. Me and my mother choose not to, due to the fact we did not wish to have the last memory of her, in a coma, and hooked up to wires and tubes. We wanted to have a better memory. The other half of my family (her husband, and her brother and his wife) judged us for it. Once she died, my uncle and his wife disowned us, taking away my two young cousins of 11 and 5, I haven't seen them now since summer last year I beleive. Also at her funeral, my mum, my grandma, and grandad and myself, were shunned at, giving dirty looks, we had no input into the funeral, no one asked us if we wanted to put something in for her, or anything, they didn't care. Everyone turned up wearing black, we came in different colours, because we knew she would of hated everyone in black. The funeral for us, was everyones way of saying goodbye, but not me, it just made me angry and distrot, that my own family walked passed me as I broke down outside. They didn't care, and they never have, I guess thats why it was so hard.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 April 2013):
WRITE IT ALL OUT
get a journal and write write write... keep it private and write write write.
ask mom and dad if you can see a counselor to talk... figure it out from there...
oh and dump the cheating boyfriend.
as for your aunt dying last year... I lost my mom to cancer over 17 years ago.. I'm sorry your aunt died. was she your primary caretaker? why is her death so overwhelming for you?
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