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writes:Dear Cupid,I am 26 years old 2 weeks after meeting a guy I discovered how rude, controlling, short tempered and impolite he is and so I ended it. Now I jus discovered I'm pregnant I text him messages telling him of my suspicions and he has flatly ignored me. He is not the type of guy I would like to be in contact with because of his attitude I'm currently unemployed and he is the only one who can help me and yet I despise him is aborting for the 2nd time that bad? Should I let him him treat like a slave because I need his help with the baby please help me what advice do you have for me?
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reader, shmily_girl01  +, writes (30 April 2013):
 I am not into abortion but that child in you is a life.Take that responsibility and look for a decent job that can support you and your baby. Any kind of job for as long as you are doing it for both of you.Do not be afraid but stand up and tell the rest of the world that no matter what happens YOU CAN DO IT!Have faith in yourself and believe in yourself that you will get through this. I am a mother with 3 kids with a very irresponsible husband that is not helping and supporting us but I MADE IT THROUGH. I had gone through lots of difficulties but I SURVIVE. You know why? Because I love myself and my children and I take responsibility of my actions without blame. I look for a solution than pity myself and lose faith in myself.If you want to be a better person, start doing right and start looking for a solution to your problem...there are so many ways to survive...DO NOT GIVE UP, KEEP TRYING.It is not easy but you have to SURVIVE.HAVE A HEART AND LOVE YOURSELF AND YOUR BABY.Count what you have now as a blessing and not a baggage.Be strong and be not afraid, you can do it. I DID IT with 3 children.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2013): There are some pretty harsh replys in here already so im not going to lecture you about protection. We all make mistakes and do foolish things but then pay the price one way or another. Do YOU want to be a mother? if you do then keep the baby, its as simple as that. If u dont feel you are able to be a good mother for the rest of your life then dont keep the baby. The only one who really knows what to do is you! As for the babys father... depending on what you do just make him aware of it, its then up to him what he does. Remember if u keep this baby then he will be in your life. On a more positive note, im a new mother and my daughter is the most amazing thing in my life. Parenthood is hard but always worth it. if it is what you want, you will find a way to make it work. Xxx
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reader, khot +, writes (29 April 2013):
khot is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hello Guys,
I know very well that what I did was wrong I ddnt even think he released the one time we had sex coz I kept pastering him to put on a condom I had an abortion about 2yrs bk and I have been very careful since I feel sad and I already hate maself for being so irresponsible and so fast to have sex, but anyway thank you for advicing me obviously if I keep the baby its mine and mine alone an if I abort I'm gona be stained by 2 babies blood
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reader, shmily_girl01 +, writes (29 April 2013):
Why would you allow him again to treat you bad just because you carry his baby?
You are 26 yrs old now and I believe you need to think maturely and do what is right and not make the same mistakes
you had before.
Be responsible of your actions and look for a right solution without hurting anyone especially the baby inside your womb.
Seek help from family members, relatives and close friends. they can help you. and be strong and have the strength to do what is right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2013): I don't understand what exactly do you mean? You got pregnant from a stranger, why? No birth control? Condoms? Calendar? Now you thinking of keeping a baby? While some would think that you can't kill your baby by having an abortion, I think it would be insane to lo keep this baby.
You don't have a job, nor a husband, how are going to raise this child? Do you really think that man will have anything to do with this child. And also where this came from, that he will support you financially, treating you badly? He didn't even answer to you.
2 abortion is as harmfull to your health as first one. Women have babies anyway later on, but you really need to do something about these unwanted pregnancies. There are plenty of choices. Good luck.
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