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writes: I need help. I've been friends with this guy for a while now. I always had kind of a crush on him. I finished a 4 year relationship 3 months ago and he used to advise me all the time. Lately we've been hanging out a lot and we usually don't hang out just by our selves. My friend paola is usually with us. Anyways, he asked me if i wanted to go to the movies and we did. He picked me up and paid for everything. Was that a date or just like a friend thing? Please answer this question. Ok so the next day we hung out again and went to his house and watched movies in his room. I gave him a back massage cuz he said his back hurt. He offered to give me one so he did. But absolutly nothing happened. And he NEVER EVER hit on me before, always just acted like a friend. Then, the next day we hung out again. That was last night. We went to his house again and watched tv. We cuddled this time and he was rubbing my upper legs and my back underneath my shirt. And everytime we get food and all he pays for everything. He told me we should go to bahamas soon and that he'll pay for everything. I thik he ment just the two of us. He dropped me off at my house this morning at 6. He told me he was gonna call me whenever he wakes up but he hasn't called me and i'm getting worried. Any advice??? I'm going crazy. I would appreciate it if a guy answered this. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2007): hey girl. please take it easy it may be just a friend i did the same more time. why i did is i dont know. sometimes we men enjoy touching beautifull girls body.if you fell love just ask him why he is doing this if not dont worry live as usuall.from henok
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2007): Hi
I think that you should just take it slowly to see how it develops! And if it keeps on going like this ask him if there is something going on between you and him and tell him that you are confussed!
Just talk it over with him
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (10 September 2007):
Those are dates.
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reader, rcn +, writes (10 September 2007):
 Take it slow. It may be a date or just friends, at least the first night. The other nights seem to be a bit more steamy. There is an issue, if you don't mind an additional comment. His paying for everything and offering to do so in advance. That shows lack of security. You have this crush, and he's looking at buying affection (bad choice of words, but the only ones) Sometimes incidents happen where guys feel financially obligated to girls to keep their affections. When you do talk, and if you meet up again, bring him a gift. Something small, in expensive to show your appreciation for his taking you out as he had. This way he'll feel less obligated, and more comfortable.
Next, you''ve been friends for quite a while. He may be pondering the what if's. I'm sure you hear stories of friends that have a sexual relationship, when that ends, so does the friendship. He may be feeling guilty be moving closer wondering if you were to continue even further if your friendship would continue if the relationship did not. Which if that's what's going on, be grateful. Its rare to find a friend who would rather be your friend than take advantage of personal desires.
Also let him know by the touchy steamy moments, you don't view him in any less of a way. If he just wants to remain friends, let him know you were OK with what was happening and it's OK for just friends to cross that boundary and have a good evening together without affecting the friendship.
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reader, samohir  +, writes (10 September 2007):
 How long you know him? I think you ve got already symptoms of More than a friend thing. I ve got some male friends, but none of them rubs my back and legs9underneath my clothes)Only if got some skin problems(fortunately had none)...
he will call you... Be sure :)
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