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writes:So, the situation is: I met this guy 6 months ago at college and we became part of the same friend group. We saw each other almost every day and went out together at night several times a week. About two months ago on a night out we ended up making out but I didnt let it go any further because I knew he was moving away a few weeks later plus he has hooked up with quite alot of girls during the 6 months I have known him. Then 3 days later on another drunken night out we again ended up kissing and I once again stopped it. however the night before he was moving we all went out and I ended up sleeping with him because I realized that he was actually moving and I might regret it if I didnt. rather regret something you did do than something you didnt do, right? Anyway, then he moved to a different state in the other end of the country and I havent seen him since, however we have been texting 3-4 times a week and facebook chatting once in a while. We never talk about the fact that we hooked up and I think we have silently agreed to never mention it. Our texts and chats are purely friendly, but he is usually the one to initiate conversation. What I am wondering is: does he actually like me as more than a friend or was I just another random hook-up? Our group is planning to go visit him within the next 4 months, how should I act around him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2012): It seems like you were just another girl on his list of conquests. however, was he friends with all the other girls he hooked up with too? if not, there might be something more there between him and you. Anyway, you should probably just act friendly as usual around him when you go visit him and if you think you are developing feeligns for him don't hook-up with him again until you know what his thoughts are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2012): I think you are probably just another notch on his bedpost, no better or worse.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 May 2012):
 I think you should just act as a friend around him. At the end of the day he knew he was moving away and so did you so it seems like it was only a one night stand. I can see now though that you might be looking for more. But if I am honest with you I don't think he is, or if he is he is not showing it. I think if he was interested he would have brought up the fact you both hooked up and he would also be flirting with you. I think he wants friendship with you but nothing more. If you really want to know the truth though then just bring it up to him and see what he says.
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