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writes:i was moving out with a girl and she now has my baby.When I went to University, I met an old friend and fell in love with her.We are currently too deep in love with each other that I am finding it hard to reveal the truth about my other Girlfriend and baby, b'se she will be too hurt to 4give me.My biggest worry is that next year my old girlfriend might also join this University!How can I handle this situation? Do I tell my new girl the truth, or I should keep quiet? I am too in love with her to break up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey, After the advise you gave me... It worked and now my friends are proud of me and you.Now Advise my friend on this:He says he have a girl friend he has spent two years together. They are studying at different Universities. Recently when he called her, some other boy picked the call and told him that he was the new boy friend. Later the girl confirmed that she have a new catch because the distance was too big between the old one.He says he is now confused and he needs an advise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell Thanks to you all for you responses....I have taken time to understand the two of the girls i have at hand and heart. This girl who have my baby seem to be interested in my money although she loves me too... But this other one have done for me because even when i tell her i need some thing that requires much money she can provide. I wouldn't wish to disappoint my first girl friend who has my baby but i am confused of what do? What should i do?
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reader, eidden06 +, writes (27 November 2006):
You need to be honest because you could ultimately end up with either one.
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reader, Ceilidh +, writes (25 November 2006):
Dear Two Women on the Go,
You're completely right when you say that your new girlfriend is most likely going to be hurt when you tell her the truth. If you have any hope of continuing in this relationship with her, you need to tell her sooner rather than later. You have a baby with another woman. Your new girlfriend is going to find this out; there is no question of that, and it's better that you tell her rather than having someone else tell her.
There are two things you need to be prepared for: taking on your new role as a father and potentially losing the woman you love. It's not clear to me from your query if you are actively involved in your child's life or not, but you are surely going to be financially involved. If you haven't sorted that out yet, you must.
You need to go to your girlfriend and tell her something along these lines: "I have something very important to talk to you about. This is something that might upset you greatly, but it's important to me that I am honest with you even on difficult issues. I was going out with [ex-girlfriend], but after we broke up, she found out she was pregnant. She had our baby [however long ago it was]. I intend to have [insert amount of involvement in your child's life], and my relationship with [ex-girlfriend] only involves discussing the needs of the baby [or friendship or whatever the case might be]."
Now at this point, she may become extremely upset, walk out of the room, and/or break up with you. She may also be accepting of the situation. Let her know that you will respect her decision if she chooses to break up with you or needs space or whatever. I know that you are in love with her and don't want to lose her, but this lie may be too much for your relationship to take.
Best of luck,
Ceilidh
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reader, Gwendolyn +, writes (25 November 2006):
 You need to tell your girlffriend. she might be mad at first but it's better then hurting her. you need to let the other one go and be there only for your baby.
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