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writes: I have two really great guys that both want me to date them. Guy number one is my ex. I broke up with him because my mother hates him, he was really jealous from time to time, and I was worried I couldn't stop myself from having sex with him. I love him very much. He is the only person I've ever had sex with and there is this huge bond there. We were both virgins before this. I was with him for almost 2 years before I went to this summer program and met guy number 2. I was gone for 6 weeks and started to have feelings for the second guy. I broke up with my boyfriend. I came back and then wasnt sure I'd made the right choice. Its been almost 5 months now and guy number one is still telling me he loves me and wants me back.Im dating guy number two now. He really is the perfect guy. He has a good job, he's super smart (33 on the ACT!) he's funny,caring, and loving. I love him with all my heart. The only problem with him is that he lives 3 hours away from me and we only see each other once a week or every 2 weeks. (He drives to see me!) I have the first guy in my life all week telling me how much he loves me and begging me to come back. Then the 2nd guy comes on weekends. I feel like im living in 2 different worlds. We've all been in the same room 2 times. When I was with both of them I didnt know who to sit by or talk to. I felt a pull in both of their directions. I feel incredibly attached to guy number one but I also feel a protection over guy number 2. I know that if I dont act fast I am going to lose one of them for good. I dont know which to pick. My mother hates the first one but loves the second. I feel like I might be taking the easy way out by choosing guy number 2 but he truely is perfect. Guy 2 is such an angel and sweetheart. I've talked all this over with him and he's told me just to do what makes me happy (although guy number 1's said the same) I've asked everyone I can and they've all told me it's my choice. But I dont know who I love more. I think I do then my mind changes the next day.Please Help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all your help. I am choosing Guy numebr 2. I've talked with Guy number 1 and he's agreed to back off because he wants to see me happy. Meanwhile I was able to spend a wonderful 2 days with guy nuumber 2 and we talked also. I msticking with him (thank goodness) Thanks for all your advice it really helped me :)
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reader, pinkipod109  +, writes (1 January 2009):
 Guy # 2 for me. Sure, you really love guy number one, and he loves you two, but you seem to have found your true love. They both want you to be happy, even if their hearts are broken. I'd say your one lucky girl to be loved so much.
Anyway, though Guy # 1 was your first and you do truly love him, Guy # 2 is your first TRUE love, and he's the man you want to spend the rest of your life with. If Guy # 1 doesn't follow what he said about it being your choice, and that he'll accept it if you didn't pick him, then he probably isn't the guy for you. Hope you figure it out before you lose both guys. Good luck!
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reader, roadman  +, writes (31 December 2008):
 Well as your only dating I'd spend time with both,as your only in your teens its likely not to last for ever and more hot dates will come your way..Just let them both know your hooking them both up,who don't like it will take a walk and then you'll be left with one! :)
Remember Safe Sex and Safety Belts !
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reader, Sweety Pie +, writes (30 December 2008):
 I am in exactly the same situation. Its confusing right? I'd say maybe take a break from guys, then have some time to yourself to think this over, as only you can make the decision. Have some girly time with friends. I have one friend who is always totaly unbiased so I can count on good advice from her, chat to someone like that before you make up your mind.
If you want to message me go ahed and i'll help all I can, it may be an idea as we are going through the same thing :)
Good luck!
xox
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