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writes:My boyfriend is trying to drum up business for himself through facebook and he adds a lot of people that he knows (even if only just a little bit). Last night he added his friends girlfriend. He then got a text to say: why are you adding so-and-so - you know of the history there. He told me that about 8 years ago on a drunken night out that she told people that he had 'tried it on' with her. He claims that he never did and never would - not only is she his friends girlfriend but she's not really attractive at all. We chatted briefly about it, and he also said that his other friend accused him of trying it on with his ex. To which he said he doesn't remember that happening either. I took his words for it but it's sort of playing on my mind! Is two people accusing you of such things that 'never happened' a red flag? He used to drink a lot but only drinks occasionally now and these incidents happened over 8 years ago! He's a friendly guy and a little socially awkward when sober but I think he definitely loosens up with alcohol...
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reader, -BMBTL- +, writes (7 August 2014):
 "... but I think he definitely loosens up with alcohol..." - He was probably drunk and then more than likely DID do what he is perceived to have done.
If he doesn't drink as much now, as you say this was over 8 years ago, leave it in the past and focus on the future with him! :)
Good luck!
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reader, PrincessRiches +, writes (7 August 2014):
 Perhaps, if under the influence of alcohol, he may have got flirtier than he realised with his mate's girl, but if he's a decent guy I can't see him going as far as "trying it on " with her. Why would he intentionally risk a friendship and a relationship with you. ?
She probably felt uncomfortable, if this is the case, and so in her mind he was trying it on, but this is not entirely true. His other friend probably just means yes, he flirted with her.
However, it was a long time ago, and nothing came of it. He's obviously learned his lesson about drinking if he doesn't drink so much anymore;
NOTHING actually happened, however accurate these two accusations are. Its probably true that if he was sober, he'd not have looked twice at her, even if she wasn't spoken for. But beer goggles can make people do daft and say daft things... I'd just chalk this one up as an act of stupidity due to alcohol and let it go at that.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (7 August 2014):
 You say he used to drink a lot. He will have tried it on when he was drunk. He does not remember it ,but they do.
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