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writes: Anyways, I was always the type of girl to get straight A's in school. I worked really hard throughout high school and graduated with high honors of 4.0 with the thought that i would go to college and be successful. Turns out i got pregnant, i started working and its hard for me to go to colle. It puts me really down knowing i worked so hard in school and seeing all my friends move on and pursue their dream while i stay behind. I know i got myself into this mess but i just wish their was a way for me to cope with it all. I know i have a lot of potential and i want to be successful not only for myself but for my family but things just got too compliated for me. I feel as if everything is about money now and days and i dont want to leave my job because we need it i really wish i can do more wih my life. i feel as if its all over for me. I just dont know what to do. I want to do somthing before its too late for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all SO SO SO much! I appreciate the fact that you all took the time to read my problem and actually give me advice. Im starting to open my eyes a little more. What you all said was true. I have plenty of time to go back to school. I have enough DRIVE to be successful even if it is later in life. By the way, my son means everything in the world to me and i dont regret him for anything in the world. He makes me want to do more with my life....my little inspiration. Anyways, thank you all again!
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reader, angela_milligan +, writes (11 September 2010):
 I was in your shoes, 18 and pregnant, dropping out of H.S... But Life has a plan 4 you and you just need to accept what it is and move forward. I get wanting to do beter for Your family but you will always have them to be their when you need them, but it has to be you doing beter for you first and not feeling guilty or bad about what has happened and love yourself always. im not gonna promise life will be flowers and full of cash just cause that was ur idea for urself.. but you will be loved and proud of yourself for whatever you do because you loved you first..without feeling down on yourself...Good luck!!!!
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (11 September 2010):
Definitely don't get down on yourself. The best thing you have going for yourself is what you said yourself: you know you have the potential. Everyone actually has potential, it's whether or not they pursue what they want or not. Like Llindy87 said, you can get grants and a lot of help. You go to work and pay your taxes, get some of that back and use it toward making a future that you want.
Sometimes life throws us a curveball and you need to figure out a new plan of action--but just because you have a baby does not mean it's over and you're hopeless. It's a lot to take on and you'll want to give up, but don't give up. It's never too late to be what you've always dreamed of becoming.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2010): Something that you should take to heart, because it is true: It's not what you do in life that makes life meaningful, it is the people that are there in your life that you share it with! And so despite the fact that it may have been easier if you postponed motherhood, never ever please ever regret having this child. Life is about love... Regardless of circumstances, a life lived with love is 100% complete, and a life without love is 100% meaningless, no matter how rich you are. This thing about being very rich and successful, its something that the media really pushes on people to make them feel poor and inadequate to get people to spend more and buy the products companies advertise. But all mature people will agree with me when I say that having more money is just a backdrop to having the people you love in your life.
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (11 September 2010):
 ya know what, the family I nannied for had a 5 and a 3 year old that I watched, along with a 15 year old song I wasn't responsible for, however the 15 year old is just the mother's son. She had him when she was 16 years old and do you know what, she went to college, got her PhD and now is a surgeon. If she can do it, so can you. It may seem bleak, but its possible. In fact, you can get through college cheaper with a baby, with grants, more financial aid, etc.
It will be tough, but its not impossible and I wish you the best of luck
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