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*isha_ab2003
writes:I'm 26 and I've been married for 8 months now. I was a virgin when I got married and still am. No matter how hard we try, we just cant seem to be able to break through my hymen. I think probably I am having elastic hymen. Whenever my husband try to penetrate, I'll be having terrible pain. At few occasions, I've even tried to bear the pain but it just doesn't happen. We tried with lubricants but still it failed. I've never used tampon in my life and my menstrual cycles are normal. Is there anything I can do about this? Please help me as I really love to have baby.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (23 November 2011):
 if your doctor diaganoised it then she can prescribe the dilator kits...perhaps insurance will cover them..
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reader, nisha_ab2003 +, writes (23 November 2011):
nisha_ab2003 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi friends,
Thanks for all your support, I visited a gynae (first time in my life), and she said that I'm perfectly fine. I have a normal vagina with normal hymen. My problem was I'm having Vaginismus. A condition whereby i'll be having involuntary pelvic muscle contraction during penetration. I've checked online for the vaginismus's treatment kit, but they are all so expensive. Anyone out there who can help me with this?
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reader, Little Bunny +, writes (1 November 2011):
See your gyno. I was a virgin and 20 when I got married and my husband could not penetrate me. I was so nervous I was squeezing my pelvic muscles so tight, he couldn't penetrate. Seeing your doctor will confirm there are no other physical problems if this is the case.
Also, if it is due to you tensing your muscles (Kegals), try you on top. It gives you the control over how fast the penetration is. Practice relaxing and tightening your Kegal muscles so you will have better control in the bedroom.
Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2011): See a doctor, you may have incomplete vaginal formation from a congenital issue (from forming in your mother's womb).
Do not try to "break through", you could get badly hurt if you do. See the doctor.
See the doctor and make sure the doctor looks in your vagina.
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reader, auntyR  +, writes (30 October 2011):
It's probably to do with you being nervous and thinking about it too much, this then causes your pelvic muscels to tighten and this makes penetration very hard. You need to really relax before you even try and have penetrative sex. Talking to a doctor will help, as i no they can offer to give you these little medical things that you insert to train and relaz your vaginal muscels. Talk to the doc!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 October 2011):
you really should see a doctor about it.
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reader, charliesdevil73 +, writes (30 October 2011):
 I agree with the female anon. You should see your doctor just in case there is something wrong, but most likely you will need to have your hymen professionally cut. It's rare, but it does happen to women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2011): I agree with the first post, you should go to your doctor and see what is causing so much pain. Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2011): I'm 23, was 21 when I got married and had the same problem. I went and saw a doctor and they examined me, said there was nothing physically wrong with me, just said I was too tense, and thought the problem might be psycological so they referred me to a sex therapist but I decided not to go. Instead, I took a few straight shots of everclear which knocked me out cold and my husband just got it over with if you know what I mean. I'm not saying you have to do this, but it worked for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2011): vaginismus- please google this for more information and then go see your doctor.
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (29 October 2011):
 You need to see your doctor about this hun.........!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2011): Yes, some women have a very thick hymen. Yours is obviously not elastic because that would mean he can penetrate you without breaking it. Go see a doctor. In some rare cases it is necessary for the gynecologist to cut it through because it is that thick.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2011): hi,
you have to go to a doctor he will tear the hymen .
This happens to some girls do not worry.
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reader, Sweety Pie +, writes (29 October 2011):
 This doesn't sound normal, i'd go and see a doctor.
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