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writes: TORN...................I really don't know were to start for the most part of my life I've been able to handle me. I developed a non-dependant personality I guess you could say. However I am 6 months pregnant with twins and live with the their father. We are not together but made it clear that we wouldn't see other people. I am so confused because I've fallen in love with him. He has said over and over that he is not ready for a relationship. We've had arguments and in anger he says that he's only here because of the babies. Please note that I am employed and takes care of me.He has had a very bad past with women so I over look alot of what he does. I'm so confused because at times he makes me feel like I am the most important person in his life other than his mother and his daughter. I've asked him if he was in love with me and he can't answer...We are about to buy a home together and I'm not sure what to do? I am so confused. I've even told him that if he is not happy he can go on and it will not affect the relationship with the twins. This man is my bestfriend and I would never hurt him,,But right now I feel that I might need to pull away to prevent from getting hurt. Please excuse the grammar. There was just so much I had to say...all advise is welcomed.....Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2006): if the relationship is unstable and there are no commitments or certainites between you then you neeed to break away from him as soon as possible preferably before your children are born. The longer you put it off the worse it will be to pull away... he can still have good relationships with his children. Plus if there is tension or arguing in the house because of your confused feelings then imagine how your children are gona feel!! make up your mind and stick with it! if its meant to be then you will make your way back to each other
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (2 November 2006):
 I can advise you on one point, it is really risky to buy a house together when you aren't married or in a permanent relationship. You may have difficulty recouping your money if things go awry.
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