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writes:hii, umm this may sound stupid but i have a question about my sex life and i was gonna go to the doc about it but i just thought i'd ask you guys first i've had sex with 3 girls now and it seems like very time the girl gets my penis hard but then when i try to pleasure her it just goes limp like im not attracted to her but i think she's very hot and then she thinks she's doing something wrong but its happeend with very girl i've been with soo is there something wrong with me orr is it cuz im new to having sex with a parnter cuz i think i've only had sex about 10 times now something like that i really don't know soo if you could help me out that would be helpful
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reader, Gargamel  +, writes (27 December 2007):
... and Merry Christmas, New Year too...... :)
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reader, Gargamel +, writes (27 December 2007):
Sorry about my delay in writeing, it was a rough month, so I kind of forgot:( anyway I am the one who wrote about your(mine too) issue on 17.November.
First of all its been difficult for me to just stop masterbateing, I have just maniged to reduce it(every other day doing so). Did it help significantly when you stopped, and after what period did you start noticeing an improvement?
What I did is that I quit smoking, it was much easier to do than to stop masterbate. That in combination with being more physically (running and sports) helped me a lot. But I can not say that I am satisfied with final result.
I also discovered that some fruit and vegetables are better aphrodisiacs thand others...
Are you takeing any supplament? And have you seen ur urologist?
You can write me on my email: [email address blocked]
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes i did masterbate frequently alot actually for alot of years and ever since i've met this girl i thought that was the problem as well so i stopped and only had sex with her and things have been getter better each time we do it, did you stop as well? or how did you make things better?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007): Since you got an hard erection with girls, you were comfortable enough for sexual act, so I dont think that your shy personality is the issue here. I am about ur age (25), and had very similar problems. Do you have a urination problem sometimes? Did you masterbate frequently earlier in your life?
More I think, more I feel that over masterbation (allmoust every day, in my teens often more than once) is the cause of the problem... what is your opinion about this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all the answer's! but i did leave 2 things out i have no problem masterbating at all ive never had a problem with that and the other night i did get hard and we had great sex i made her cum it was awesome!! but going limp has happened after soo is this just a shy or nervous thing cuz i am a shy person so what is my problem and what should i do??
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reader, SamuraiRick  +, writes (15 November 2007):
 Okay lets be straight here. Erectile dysfunction at your age is not good. See a doctor, an urologist to be exact and have yourself checked. It could be physical and you don’t know it. I personally had a physical ailment recently that affected my sex life too, but I got cured and in top health now.
But lets say it’s not a physical thing and more psychological. You have to nip this in the bud. That first girl this happened to you is the clue. What happened with her? Did you rush things? Were you too excited to get excited? Did you have too much to drink, because that can affect your staying power too?
The other two girls this happened with happened because you got overly self-conscious about what happened to the first one. Now, all of a sudden you’re in a hitting slump. You’re thinking about it too much and that’s the problem now.
My friend you are a prime candidate for what is know as a “Slump-buster.” I hate to say this but the only way to get your mojo back is to find the fattest butt-ugliest chick you can find and fuck her brains out. That chick that stands in the corner all the guys ignore…..that’s your prime target. Yeah I know, bring plenty of protection, and close your eyes if you have to during the whole unfun act. After you fuck this girl you will have your mojo back, my son.
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reader, Dustin587 +, writes (14 November 2007):
 I've had a very similar problem. Here's a link to my issue: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-first-time-and-i-cant-keep-it.html
I hope this helps :). I have only had sex twice, but I had the same problem you are having both times. Yeah, it's so embarrassing, but just know that you are not alone. I have considered going to the doctor as well. I'll first try out some of the things the other users told me.
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