New here? Register in under one minute   Already a member? Login239636 questions, 1059484 answers  

  DearCupid.ORG relationship advice
  Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!Search
 New Questions Answers . Most Discussed Viewed . Unanswered . Followups . Forums . Top agony aunts . About Us .  Articles  . Sitemap

This random girl claims my boyfriend got her pregnant, and there is lots of evidence to prove she is lying, so why do I still think about it?

Tagged as: Three is a crowd, Troubled relationships<< Previous question   Next question >>
Question - (30 July 2010) 8 Answers - (Newest, 23 September 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, *achel1991 writes:

Recently a girl tried adding my boyfriend on facebook but as he didnt know her he ignored it, she also added my friend and started messaging her saying that my boyfriend got her pregnant and she really needed to talk to him. He thought it was a joke and for a while I did too then I started to really think if this could be true because I can remember a night we had a massive argument and he went to the pub with a mate then came to my house around 11 acting a bit weird. I decided to get it out in the open by talking to this girl pretending to be my boyfriend. She said a few things that made sense but there was so much that told me she was lying. She then messaged my friend again copying and pasting the conversation we had had but she had completely changed everything that was said. She then messaged her again 2 weeks later saying she had met up with my boyfriend and he had said that he wanted her to keep the baby and he would help but he was on holiday when she apparently met him so had to be lying. Theres too much evidence to say shes lying so why do I still think about it? Would someone really go through all that trouble just to split us up?

View related questions: facebook, on holiday

<-- Rate this Question

Reply to this Question


Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question!

A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (23 September 2010):

Honeypie agony auntStop looking at her FB page if it upsets you and BLOCK her from yours and your pictures.

It's that easy.

<-- Rate this answer

A female reader, rachel1991 United Kingdom +, writes (22 September 2010):

rachel1991 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Hi all thanks for all your replies it really helped me and I had completely got it all out of my mind untill last week when she uploaded my holiday photos and said they were hers. She then said to someone else the babys dad was someone completely different and then changed it back to being my boyfriends again. She then said he was standing outside her house thursday night when he was in bed with me that night. Its been really getting to me and upsetting me, my boyfriend gets angry that i am letting it affect me but its just i feel like i am being targetted and someone clearly hates me so much to try and ruin my relationship and feel this horrible. I have reported her to facebook so many times but they arent doing anything about it. I just feel so powerless and like i cant do anything to stop her interferring in my life.

<-- Rate this answer


A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2010):

Sweetie I understand the feeling- I have a girl who stalks my bf too, although not nearly to the extent of this crazed psycho who appears to be obsessed with your boyfriend and trying to insert her way into your relationship to break things up.

I would echo HoneyPie's advice to make sure that she has absolutely NO contact with your friends, your boyfriend, your family, or yourself. Do not allow her to invade your life- I would also give your bf the benefit of the doubt, as he does sound innocent.

If for some reason she comes back again with an actual baby, do insist upon a DNA test and if she refuses, make sure she knows that there is no way in hell that baby would ever be viewed as the child of your boyfriend.

Good luck honey and stay strong. Bitches like this will hopefully get karma back threefold someday...just take the higher road and stay true to yourself and your boyfriend because you and your relationship are better and unable to be touched by this psycho skank.

<-- Rate this answer


A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (2 August 2010):

Honeypie agony auntJUST tell your friends to stop talking to her and you stop too. It is not really your "job" to ferret out the truth, you never will, especially if this girl is a liar, which I think she is.

Let it go. Ignore her. Want to bet that she will either turn up to NOT be pregnant anymore, or she will try and find another baby daddy...?

<-- Rate this answer


A female reader, rachel1991 United Kingdom +, writes (31 July 2010):

rachel1991 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

i do trust him even though he has acted a bit suspicious before and flirted with girls he has a past with but i know that it will never go beyond that. When i spoke to this girl i asked lots of things to catch her out for example the only possible day it could have been was the day he got a new tattoo so had his arm bandaged up but she kept saying she was drunk and it was dark. Most things she said didnt make sense at all but then some things could have. I know its not true and have told her to leave us alone but she wont give up. She only messages me and my friend but never my boyfriend it doesnt make sense but if there is a baby and thats a big IF we will get a DNA test.

<-- Rate this answer


A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (30 July 2010):

Honeypie agony auntWell, all you can do is wait on the DNA test... IF there even IS a baby.

I think your BF is innocent, and I think you should treat him as such. His initial reaction (thinking it was a joke) kind of did it for me. No guy who screws some random girl would think a pregnancy is a joke.

I would STOP all contact with this girl. Tell your BF that you trust him and go from there.

And YES, there are women out there who will do STUPID stuff to break others up, be it a relationship or a marriage.

I think SHE is full of bull.

<-- Rate this answer


A female reader, Jessica Wheate United Kingdom +, writes (30 July 2010):

Babe, Dont Worry About it THe sam thing has happened to me it will all get sorted out if u want to leave him just do what is best for you you7 dont have to do anything yet because even though she says it his is it might not be because like yes they may have had sex but she might had sex after that so she may think it is his but it may not be so just wait and get a DNA test done.

Good Luck xx :)

<-- Rate this answer


A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (30 July 2010):

Some will, yes. She may well be totally obsessed with him or something. There is only one way to be sure though, and that's a DNA test. After all, if she has nothing to hide, she'll allow it.

<-- Rate this answer


Add your answer to the question "This random girl claims my boyfriend got her pregnant, and there is lots of evidence to prove she is lying, so why do I still think about it?"

Already have an account? Login first
Don't have an account? Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column - recommended!

All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft