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writes:How do i tell my friend he is making a mistake. He met this girl and within i guess three weeks she is telling him she is in love and that god sent him to her. I know prior to this she was with three of his friends i just think she is crazy and he is moving too fast, might i add.He just broke things off with a girl he was with for almost two years Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2012): He's on the rebound getting laid, leave him alone OP. She's the one who will get messed about in this situation because she's the rebound.
Let him get laid OP and just let him get on with it. She;s not the godsend, what's between her legs is and that's what he's so enamoured with.
Look I'm not trying to be a misogynist, but you've surely gotten hot and heavy with a new guy straight after leaving a relationship, and I'm sure you know the buzz of having a new person to fool around with, the saviour of your pain.
He's just a rebound guy getting his and she's just a crazy woman who's giving it to him. That's not ideal OP but he'll snap out of it.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (19 June 2012):
 Honestly I wouldn't tell him anything unless he directly ASKS you what you think.
He seems to be on the rebound so the chance of them being long term is low.
It's not uncommon for some people to throw themselves into new relationships in order to fix a broken heart or to try and "erase" a past relationship. I think that is what your friend is doing.
Also, it's his life and his mistakes to make.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (19 June 2012):
 Well, you can't exactly tell him : your new gf is crazy, if you want to stay friends. You have to convey your perplexity using a very light touch, something along the lines of " Mmmm...your new story is going rather fast, how do you feel about it " or " I wonder if one can really be sure of having found the one after just 3 weeks " or something like that. Something that MIGHT give him food for thought, but without judging ,mocking or criticizing him, because , after all, he is a grown up man, this is his life and his business,and he needs to make himself happy, not his friends. It's possible that he is making a mistake- in which case, he'll just learn the hard way same as sooner or later it happens to everybody.
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