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writes:A North American girl I am working with everyday keeps making references to a question someone asked her: her exact words are "he asked me how much I could take", meaning, how many times she could have intercourse in a row. Then, she suddenly says to me that "she wants to have an abortion with me". She's somewhat flirty, from what I see. I don't know what to think about this. Help! What do you think she means with this? ...
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reader, burningbridges  +, writes (18 June 2007):
'We could have the cutest little abortion together' is silly goth talk, and she probably doesn't mean she wants to have an abortion with you in the literal sense. She probably used that phrase to you could tell she was joking when she flirted with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, flower girl, TasteofIndia, Sarabeth101, burningbridges and the anonymous lady. Your answers confirm what I thought about her, and also suggest that my guess about why she behaves like this may be correct. Definitely she's not "relationship material": she seems too unstable and, yes, morbid, for that. She's here on an assignment and I will not see her again after she leaves. I wanted the input of WOMEN because I needed to be sure what she might mean - sometimes we men take things out of context. My guess is that something terrible happened to her in the past, and she has not got over that. Once, she mentioned that she wanted to adopt a child. I asked her why she wanted an abortion if she wanted a child. All she could do was stare at the floor and say "You have a point".
Your comments were extremely valuable and helpful. Thank you, mesdames.
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reader, burningbridges +, writes (18 June 2007):
She's being silly, and while she probably finds you cute, she's not relationship material. Since you work with her you have the right to ask her to stop the sex talk.
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reader, sarahbeth101  +, writes (17 June 2007):
hey,
she might not be serious aboout what she said so don't take it that serious. but if she does you just need to do the right thing
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2007): wants to have an abortion with you...she sounds too morbid for comfortable dating material, not just that, but she sounds a little unstable. I would not date her.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (17 June 2007):
 Hi there,
Well, this girl sounds a little bizarre. Some girls are a little more brash than others. She seems the type who thinks that cheap pick up lines are funny. If that's just not your sense of humor, she's probably not exactly your "type".
I'll tell you this much though, sweetness... you're definitely being hit on!
xxIndia
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (17 June 2007):
 She sounds scary, if i were you i would stay clear of this one.
Take care.xx.
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