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male
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anonymous
writes:I could really do with some advice...My fiancee and I have been together for a year and 3 months and engaged nearly 7 and it feels as if the 'spark' has gone from our relationship. I suffer from Clinical Depression which has caused strain on our relationship in the past but recently it seems as if he has given up on us. He isn't as driven anymore to help solve our current problem and seems to be apathetic towards everything. Every time when I try and discuss things with him he simply just tries to turn everything on me and gets really defensive. He says he's trying and tries to plan for days out but that's as far as it gets... plans and when I suggest something (as he has moaned that I dont) he just shrugs or says 'I don't mind' a lot or no... I have no idea what I should do really... it feels like everything I try doesn't work - like we're not on the same page anymore.Thanks in advice for any advice given =)
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reader, VSAddict  +, writes (19 July 2011):
 I think you two should break off the engagement, and relationship. If he's not willing to put any effort into the relationship, it will stay be like this, boring and irrational. If he's stopped putting effort in, then why are you still with him? Because you love him, but if it was love, both of you would come to terms with each other, no matter who's in the wrong. But that's not happening. Have you talked to him about it? If you haven't, then do it. But if you have and he hasn't changed, leave this relationship and give yourself a chance to find someone who listens and never stops trying to keep you happy. Hope I helped.
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