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writes:The mind teases the heart!My question is what do you think about the concept of The heart teasing the mind?I think this happens but is probably an illusion and really we should listen to our heart because that is the essence of our true feeling and that is what recognizes and lets us realize truth for ourself.orDo you think it should be an equal balance of both because the mind is doing its job and questioning reality.Please, give your idea or belief on this.Thanks
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (16 March 2009):
 Hi Hunny
I feel the balance of both have an affect on our lives..Sometimes our hearts can tell us something is good exciting and feels right. Then our head will tell us not to go into something quite so quick or there may be a shadow of doubt..Many times people go with the heart and find hurt..I always go with both now, Its better for me to think rather than to go were no man has been before..I don't believe we feel with our heart our feelings come from our solar plexus that is were all the happy exciting sad angry feelings are felt, That is why I believe you can feel sick when you feel love or sadness. Our head tells us just be careful so I tend to listen to my head as well as my heart HOPE THIS HELPS HUNNY WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, jessica04  +, writes (16 March 2009):
 It's a yin and yang thing, there should be an equal balance.
This question makes me laugh because on a grander scale, it is exactly me and my BF. I wear my heart on my sleeve, but he is so methodical and analytical (he's an engineer).
I think you need a balance of both. The mind is there to make sure the heart doesn't run away with itself, and the heart is there to make sure the mind leaves a few things to chance, just for excitement. The problem comes when people lean a little too much towards one than the other.
Great, now I am going to spend the rest of my night wrapping my brain around this one, lol!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (16 March 2009):
 This terminology is misleading. With no apology for being picky, let's just try to understand reality here. The "heart" pumps blood and has no thoughts, so it's all in the mind. There are compartments in the mind, one or more of which correlates to this "heart" entity. It's basis lies in the natural human urge (instinct) to procreate and propigate the species.
Just about every living thing on earth, whether plant, animal, fish, insect or microorganism, is driven by essentially the same force or purpose.
Fortunately, nature made this process feel very good for most living things. We must presume that the sex process feels as good for insects, fish and other mammals as it does or us. Otherwise, why bother? And it's messy.
So, that understood, let's analyze the so-called mind verses heart issue suggested, and realize that it is all mental.
The sexual force instilled in us by genetics includes such tendencies as attraction, protection, acceptance, comfort, stimulation, happiness, enjoyment, excitement, companionship - and much more. When physically satisfied, it culminates in an exquisite rush of pleasure sensations throughout the body, medically directed from the brain in the form of chemical and electrical activities, triggered by hormones, external stimulation and other things.
So, we are driven to seek sexual satisfaction for all these reasons, but we also have a sense of fear. More recently, we fear the spread of disease, but always there has been some danger of various forms. One most powerful with women is the fear that a man will basically screw her once, or a few times, and leave. She only has her intuition, which is mental, to decide in advance. Men also have intuition, but there are different kinds of men. Most of us possess the powerful desire for sex, as do women. Men typically display or express it more openly, but what does a gal wearing high-heels and a miniskirt express?
I could go on but basically, it is wise to apply common sense when deciding about sexual relationships. My motto is: "If it feels good and each enjoy, do it." It's also good for the heart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2009): Definitely equal balance! The Heart ignores the red flags. Just knows the romance of things, the Head tells you to watch out for the red flags! I tend to follow my heart and I have been known to get into situations that complicate my life and in the past, have even threatened my life. I am in a constant battle between the head and the heart. I'm a slow learner but I am finally learning to think things out before taking action (most of the time)
Whatever you do, don't ignore the red flags when they are in your face! Don't let your heart tell you it will be okay. You may just end up with a broken heart!
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reader, andrew loves hali +, writes (15 March 2009):
 i think an equal balance
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