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writes:Hey, I've recently had sex with my boyfriend but the condom ripped i'm only 13 an yes I know I am under-age an silly, but I think I want too keep the baby if I am pregnant, I know there is a-lot more to it than just having a baby! But I will look after it as best as I can, I know my mum would help as much as she could. I'm just scared about telling her if I was too keep it because she has a really bad temper an she would totally flip. I would be really scared! I'm stuck on what too do:/, any help? x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2010): What having a baby means:1) You have to think about what your actions will do to not only yourself and your family but now you have to think about this child, too. 2) You have to accept and love this child no matter what. They may not be as perfect as you want them to be and more likely they won't. [This also means you have to consider the possibility this child will be born with a disability. Can you handle that?]3) Giving up your entire existence for someone else. 4) Sacrificing your dignity and modesty for someone else.5) Throwing away your pride for someone else.6) Curbing your desires and placing needs as priorities... for someone else. 7) Being happy when you wake up in the morning with your hair full of spit and snot, urine all over your bed, and drool stains on your shirt. 8) Having the most frightening thoughts and events you could ever imagine play out before you. [Think of the person you love the most right now. Now think of them walking out into traffic. Now take that reaction and multiply it by 10.]9) Being totally and utterly broke and not caring one bit.10) Utilizing anything and everything that someone gives you as if it were a treasure. 11) Accepting that you don't know everything... and really aren't ready for this. What it means to have a baby and be a single parent:Everything listed above ...alone. What it means to fail a pregnancy test:You don't have to worry about any of that above yet. Take a test.
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reader, advice angel +, writes (5 April 2010):
 i dont agree with abortions at all and its not my decision for what you do,but your mams your mam,its your choice and whatever choice you make,she shoould support you,all i got to say is,you make your bed,you lie in it,it was your choice to have sex with your boyfriend and (he should stick by you)
When you have this baby you just need to know,i know you mentioned this in your post but your mam can not be lumbered with the baby.
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reader, Red Green 0289  +, writes (4 April 2010):
"But I will look after it as best as I can, I know my mum would help as much as she could"
Are you that selfish? A 13 year old with ZERO way to support herself or the child, so best you can is CRAP... Living off government handouts all your life, with NO EDUCATION. The kid will really appreciate this, not to mention the likelihood that you'll end up with a guy for security. If (and I hope you're not) you are pregnant, think about giving the baby up to a couple who are educated and have the ability to rear the child in a proper home. If you're not pregnant, quit having sex until you learn how to properly protect yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2010): you have no real understanding of the world yet. You are too young to be a mother. You would be closing the door to too many opportunities. I have had two abortions before. And because of it I was able to become a lawyer and do so much with my life. Please, do consider abortion seriously. You are in no position to be a mother, you are still a child.
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (3 April 2010):
 OK so you're 13 and really you shouldn't be having sex yet. But what's done is done. At least you used a condom. If you're going to continue to have sex, go on the pill. You can still go on this even if you are underage and everything you tell the nurse is private and confidential.
Think about your options. Keep the baby, adopt the baby, abort the baby. Could you cope living with a baby and what would your family think? Could you cope knowing your child was alive and couldn't see you for years? Would you have the heart to terminate the baby permanently?
In all honesty, if I found out I was pregnant, I would probably want to keep it. When you tell your mum, sit her down, and stress that you used a condom and it broke. Her initial reaction will probably be furious, but she's your mum and she loves you, so whatever you decide to do she will support you =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2010): well what you need to do is to be sure that you are pregnant first...
If you say that your mum will help as much as she could but she really has a bad temper then try writing it on a letter instead of telling her face 2 face
but sweety she's going 2 freak out anyways because she is your mother thats what they do they cant help it and love but she loves you and wants the best for you
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reader, Godchild +, writes (3 April 2010):
I was still playing with my baby dolls. My advice to you is to get a pregnancy test and find out for sure. After you get the results tell your mom only if its positive. At this time in your life you definitely need your mother help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2010): well what you need to do is to be sure that you are pregnant first...
If you say that your mum will help as much as she could but she really has a bad temper then try writing it on a letter instead of telling her face 2 face
but sweety she's going 2 freak out anyways because she is your mother thats what they do they cant help it and love but she loves you and wants the best for you
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