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*tacec24
writes:stuck between two guys..#1 Lee.. Lee i dated a few years ago for a few months. we had this really intense relationship. he is beautiful and sexy and funny and sweet.#2 Cooper.. Cooper and i are currently dating. He just bought us a house (we havent moved in yet.. our move in date is in 2 weeks) cooper is sweet and kind and caring. Lee was dating someone before me and she got pregnant. he went back to her because he felt it was the right thing to do.. he later found out that the baby wasnt his and the father and this girl are now together. Cooper and i have been together for about a year and he just bought a house and is SO good to me. hes has such a good heart and i love him very much. our main problem is that hes not sexual.. like very rarely. and we just doing have any passion which is so important to me. lee has recently come back to me and told me about the baby and wants another chance. ive spent a little time with him but have not cheated on cooper and i wont. but i need to make a decision. my gut tells me that cooper is the right one.. well have a very sweet, sensible, good wasp life. but.. lee. i have so much passion with lee. i never stopped caring for lee and wishing that things were different and now they are. the 'sexual' part with lee is so amazing and im so happy with that part with cooper. so.. pros and cons..cooperpros.. my family loves him, he really cares about me and is a really good person with a kind heart, makes me laugh.cons.. ill live my whole life being sexually frustrated cos i know that its just gonna get worse the older i get, as much as i care about him i still have doubts that hes it for me.leepros.. SO much passion, hes really hot, he makes me smile and he also has a good heartcons.. he needs to grow up a little, hes already left me once.please help :(
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (3 May 2010):
 this is a hard one. It looks like u will have stability with cooper,he will treat u right,but u will always lack passion.and then ur gonna be thinking about lee and how u didnt give him that second chance. give him the chance.it might not work out,but the thing with cooper wont either.
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reader, stacec24 +, writes (3 May 2010):
stacec24 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you for the feedback.. i just dont know how to leave cooper. idk if ill be totally happy with lee. this is just so hard :(
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (3 May 2010):
 Any relationship that does not have passion will not last.
Material things may satisfy your external urges but it is the passion that satisfies the inner man.
What good is a home when it is empty of passions?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 May 2010):
 I wrote it already on this site and I guess I will have to write it again...but honestly I just cannot understand why people feel they MUST make a choice between two wrong options ,when they know neither one is good for them.No,you cannot spend the rest of your life being sexually frustrated.So that would exclude Cooper.Then again, no, physical attraction is nor enough to base a serious relationship upon,in lack of shared values and a common vision for your future etc.etc., so it sounds like Lee is not your best bet either.Why can't you wair for a third guy who will be both sexy and reliable ? Why can't you be on your own for a while until you find what you really want ?
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