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Sporadic texts received. Why does he do this? Does he like me, still?

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Question - (11 October 2015) 6 Answers - (Newest, 12 October 2015)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I don't understand why someone would sporadically contact someone ?

A while back I got close to a male friend but he hadn't finished things properly with who he was with

It fractured the friendship and we didn't talk for nearly a year but then he would do this weird text every now and then after he finished with her

I haven't seen him in over a year but he's texted a few times this year

I got sick of the last one 3 weeks ago and gave him short shift

Why's he doing it ?

Does he still like me or realise what he did ?

Any advice gratefully received

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A female reader, Ivyblue Australia +, writes (12 October 2015):

Ivyblue agony auntWho knows what really goes though peoples head with the addition that with men we have to work out which head they are thinking with. if it ended badly over a year ago and you feel as though he is now some what arrogant to boot then is he really someone worth investing any further thought? The only other thing that I could possible think could be the reason for the sporadic txt'ing is you mention that you parted ways a year ago with few and far between contact- do you have a mutual friend that has mentioned you or your recent job change and that has perhaps pricked him thinking of you enough to txt? Dunno, maybe it is a case of regret.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2015):

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Thanks honey pie wise words

No he's one of these ostrich types ' bury head'

I've been pretty stand of fish but still mega pissed at him

I don't get him

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (12 October 2015):

Honeypie agony auntDoes he realize that he was an idiot?

Hard to say. The fact is, you would presume that IF he was interested in more or trying to "fix" it he would make more of an effort? But he is not. So IF you are looking to figure this out, why not ask him next time he texts, what's up with texting you randomly. Either he will buckle up and tell you or he will go silent till next time he feels like texting someone.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2015):

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Thanks so far for the advice

No the friendship ended pretty badly

I am annoyed he's only texting hence why I got pissed at the last text

He just seems different now like almost arrogant

I've recently started a good job and he knows I'm doing well whereas I know he's unhappy

My friend reckons he's realising what an idiot he's been

Do you agree ?

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A female reader, Ivyblue Australia +, writes (12 October 2015):

Ivyblue agony auntSounds like he is putting the feelers out. Sorry if this comes off as offensive, thats not my intention by any means, but maybe he hasn't had any lady luck else where so he is simply trying his luck in what was once a go zone. Seriously if the txt are along the lines of 'Hi, there' or " hey been a long time whats up?' kinda thing then the dudes gotta piss or get of the pot, as in he should pick up the phone and make an effort. I guess it's only relevant if you still fancy him if not just ignore them.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (11 October 2015):

Honeypie agony auntHE was checking his lines.. (as in fishing lines) Seeing if you would still bite.

If you two had some going on before he was single, he knows that you were interested in him, so while he may not have been looking for anything serious with you, he liked the idea of you "waiting" for him or still caring. So a casual random once in a while text would confirm (to him) that you were still liking him.

I think if he SERIOUSLY liked you he wouldn't be stringing you along for a whole year, don't you?

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