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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I am having major problems in my relationship. We fight daily. He is in a bad living situation, and even though it has been two years since we first started dating, nothing has gotten better for him. I am in college still, working my way up, and I feel that he chooses to go nowhere with his life. In the beginning, I thought that he had no luck, but now I see he actually has no ambition. I want out, but I usually can't bring myself to do it. And the few times that I have broken up with him, he never takes it seriously and calls me the next day acing like everything is completely fine. I must have broken up with this kid maybe, 20 times in the past two years, yet we are still together. And each time it confuses me more and more. Don't get me wrong, he is a wonderful person with a great personality. He is the sweetest boy I have ever met, and makes me feel like the most beautiful woman on earth. He is constantly telling me he loves me, but then there are times where he can't control his anger and says the nastiest things to me. I know all of these economic and emotional problems are the result of his awful childhood. I sympathize with him, but sometimes all of these problems are too much to handle. I am still young, and I want to have fun before I get a job and responsibilities. Help!
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (29 March 2007):
 It isn't your responsibility to fix the parts of him that need fixing. If you have split up over twenty times, that is a problem in itself. The fact that he has anger issues and abuses you verbally is a big red flag. The issue that worries me the most is his total lack of ambition. You need to be on the same page and looking towards similar life goals. It doesn't seem like it's worth fighting every day and from the things that you have described, it sounds like you aren't considering him to be a partner in your future. It's probably time to start thinking of making the final break so that you can get back to being young - like you said. Ponungalungb is right, Go Have Fun!
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (29 March 2007):
 You call him a "kid" and a "boy", but that he makes you feel like "the most beautiful woman on earth". Interesting.
I think you both need to grow up and onward . . . separately. You said it all in your last sentence. You're still young and you want to have fun. 'nuff said. Go have fun!
Good luck!
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