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writes:got a close friend who i been friends with for 4years. His a bit stubborn and never admitted his fault or i've never heard him say sorry.Anyway we used to talk so much, get along and we now live together at uni, we're flat mates. We both live our own lives have girlfriends etc but yet we argue over stupid things. Well its him its usually over bills or a foul in a football match we played where i hit him on the leg in a tackle.Stupid little things and than usually to make me feel sorry he stops talkin to me for weeks until i apologise. Last time we didn't speak for 3weeks because my in football team beat his, and it got aggressive and he started goin in really hard and stuff. Than i score a goal and his just sayin you only scored that coz our team wasn't defendin etc. Than he won't talk. Even though i don't know my mistake i apologized and said i'm sorry if i hurt you in any way.Everything i say his negative about, i say i'm gettin this car, he says it rubbish, everyone has opinions but its not his opinion its more of a grumpy answer like his jealous.I dunno what to do. We haven't spoken for over a month now again over another small arguement.Everyone has small arguements but i don't understand why i get the silent treatment when its no one's fault its just life.Its been xmas, my bday, new year i text him but his so stuck up he hasn't bothered replyin and we're back at uni living together next week.I don't want to sit down and talk coz i've done that and he always blames me! I avoid him all the time but he just talks about me to other people and when i hear it it really annoys me yet i just eat it up.I just don't know what to do. I hate sayin sorry and being his little bitch!We're 18 for gods sake yet he acts like a kid! We were best friends now its like i try to do things that he will like, we have to watch the film he likes, eat what he likes i cant do that anymore i want a bit of freedom. And when i silently do what i want he gets in a mood and when i confront him he will completely look at my face and not talk until i leave the room and thats when the silent treatment starts for weeks! Please help!
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (2 January 2009):
 Silent treatment is childish, but I'm sure if you have apologized EVERY time he started that crap that he just assume you will apologize again.
Unless you can successfully live and ignore him til you are done at Uni... otherwise... Get a new flatmate & friend.
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