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writes:I am 16, well a month away, and she just turned 19, she lives in another state and her boyfriend told her not to talk to me cause i guess he feels threatened. He told her to tell me to lose her number. But we had a conversation and she doesnt really want me to. And i am assuming she likes me cause she says she is gonna miss talking to me. What should i do? Cause i cant really think of another reason why she would talk to me for the past 3 years or so. Reply to this Question
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (1 February 2010):
 She's gonna 'miss' talking to you? she even already has it in her mind sooner or later you will be gone. She's just laying the sympathy factor on you. Maybe she's playing you? maybe to see her BF get revved up and she likes that heroic factor in him.
The fact of the matter is, she has a boyfriend, so what are you trying to do? steal her from him? its a bit lame bro. What goes around eventually comes around.
You could Either lay it straight on her and see if she comes to you. if she dosent come, then watch the rose pettals die. Or hit the deck and just move on but keep her number.
I think your better of being just friends for now. keep her number, maybe later when you get older and she breaks of with him you guys can hook up.
If you do get her, i don't see it lasting cuz when she's old enough to go out to the bars and you can't. Some dude 'will' steal her from your ass.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2010): She likes you but she still knows how young you are. It will be very hard for her to give up her boyfriend for you. sorry dude. i mean she will first think about what people will say, then how will you meet, lastly if she likes you or not. sorry bro i dont think it's going to happen. i dont really think you have a choice in this its all her. and it will probably end up with you not getting to talk to her. And if all that doesnt make her stop then, she is probably sexually active, and if she commits to you then no sex right. That is very hard if she just started having sex, so for sure not going to happen
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reader, Keyshantasy  +, writes (1 February 2010):
 I really don't know and understand the extint of your FRIENDSHIP-RELATIONSHIP, BUT here it goes. I am assuming you were 13 and she was 16, for the 3 year history. Brutally honest-if you don't know for sure the boyfriend actually said to tell YOU to lose HER number, this may be a way for Her to let YOU down easy. If she lives in another state why would he feel threatend? Honestly I think she talks to you because you must be a very good friend and that is probably how she wants to keep it. It's a missing link here, either you told her how you feel and she wants only friendship and this is her way of putting it to you nice and easy(for her conscience) or your reading way too far into something that was never nonthing. Huge age difference,different state,boyfriend-too many red flags. I would just be her friend as you are and try to be there for when she needs you that way nobody wins, nobody loses.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (1 February 2010):
 If you are a good friend to her, tell her to work her relationship issues with her boyfriend. She is definitely missing something. Her boyfriend is not giving her enough attention, not listening to her enough, or something. Tell her he should be the one she is sharing her stories with.
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