A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend of a year broke up with me a week ago. I feel 50/50 about it. Relief because we had been living together and it wasn't working, I feel happier back at home with my family. Sad because he was lovely to me, and I miss him, and it's hard to break the routine.We broke up 3 months ago also, but I fought then, and went to see him, talked, and he cried and came and hugged me and told me he loved me, and didn't want to lose me.We both agreed we would work on the issues we had. It was mostly him, he's the type of guy to bottle things up and it all comes out, but unfortunately, instead of trying to fix it this time, he ended it. In our conversations over the past week, I have got the impression that he wasn't 100% sure he wanted to end it definitely. He has said he will always love me, and I will always be a close friend to him, and he'll be there for me whenever I need him.He works away allot and actually had to leave the day we broke up. So we haven't even had a chance to speak face to face.I know he's the type that is quite stubborn and once he makes his mind up he sticks to it, but the last time he broke up with me, his resolve broke.Now what I need to know is your opinions on whether I should give him his space for the rest of the time he's away (another week), then try to resolve things?Should I just suggest meeting up for a chat on neutral grounds and see what happens? Or should I just walk away totally?
View related questions:
broke up Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, cd206 +, writes (14 January 2008):
 A little regret at the end of any relationship is to be expected.\If you didn't feel anything it would be tantamount to admitting that he never meant anything to you when he clearly did but the danger at the end of the relationship is we immediately forget how bad it was when it was bad and we turn it into something less so. You're not over him and chances are he's not over you either so right now you need to give each other space, at least for another month or so. Whether you'll get back together eventually or not is unclear right now but people who are meant to be together get back together naturally. These things don't need to be forced. Give yourself some time to grieve the relationship and work out what you really want. You never know... you might realise you're much happier on your own and you don't want him back.
CD
A
female
reader, always.you  +, writes (14 January 2008):
 you should just meet face to face thats always easiser because ive learned that fights can heat up alot faster when your talkin on the phone or internet and it will be easier to meet face to face because if yall do decide to spilt you can have a lot more closure on the relationship
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2008): I would say, just walk away totally.
He isnt the guy for you, you felt relief to be out of the relationship and back with your family. Stick with this feeling. Sometimes when we meet up with exes everything is seen through rose tinted glasses, in the harsh light of day when you are back together this tint fades.
I personally believe that only through the passage of time can exes be friends. Not straight away. There is still too many raw emotions to be platonic.
~Be strong, think of yourself and with time you will see things more clearly.
...............................
|
