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writes:Thank you all for trying to help me with my dilemma. I am no child, he broke up with me about a month ago. He said some degrading things to me that are were not true. We were together for 3yrs and I accepted things that I would of normally walked away from. Like the cheating and distrust but I didn't want to sound selfish, I wanted him to see that not everyone is bad. He was hurt by his ex wife and his exgirlfriend. He saw that I was not bad, I treated him with the respect that we should all have in a relationship. He hurt me with his coldness at times and cried many tears, but I always put his feelings ahead of mine. Was I right? No.. I learned to love again, it was not all that bad, he was like a little boy at times and if I made him smile that made me happy. I am a friendly and outgoing person, I guess he didn't understand that he is much more reserved. A month ago, his brother and father did within 72 hours, I was there for him and the family. Well in 1 day I was accused of flirting and disrespecting him and his family at the house, wake and ceremony. He just shut down on me. I never did any of this. He broke up with me and said he could not trust a woman like me, and really said hurtful things to me. I should hate him, which I did not was it the grief or paranoia talking. I've left messages on his voice mail he will not pick up. NOw his family does not want anything to do with me. I still don't know what I did. He is lying and is believing his lies. One day we are doing fine I am holding him because he is grieving although he never showed it. He holds everything in, and when he is upset he shuts down, will speak to no one. I;ve been there with him, and he knows how I hated this, but not to care for me after 3 years he let me go the person he says he loved. I am shock, angry and confused! I am reading and seeing a therapist because I refuse to my sad anymore. But I haven't called him in one week, and I will refrain in doing so. I have pride. Although within the past 3 weeks I may have lost it when I tried calling him and leaving messages, first I hated him and said horrible nasty things, and he was upset but they were the truth I let all my anger and frustrations out. then I apologized...then I wanted an apology from him for defaming my name. All this in vain, it goes straight into voice mail. I guess I miss talking to him, we spoke before he went to work, after he got off, he works the first shift, and he would call me on his way home and before we went to sleep. He lives 2 hours away so talking kept up close. I never cheated or disrespected him...why did he push me aside and lie about me and degrade me. I should walk away, but 3 years and all the cries and laughter and my daughter liked him I feel I need an apology!!! am I right??? Was it grief, paranoia, jealousy??
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queeny63 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionPs: I called him a lying, distrustful,cold cheater, and other not to nice words and I know he was fuming...but I can't always be nice and sweet...I said what I felt from my heart, although I feel that I was justified I know that he hates me for doing this.
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