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writes:I'm a 25 yr old woman, I'm attracted to a male model, He's gorgeous! The guy isn't a well known model, so it's not like he might have a massive ego. The pictures of him are 2 years old and it doesn't seem like he has had any new work as a model. I want to get to know him maybe start a relationship, something in my heart is telling me to do this, to have a chance to talk to him would mean a lot to me.I have been considering for a while to contact him by email, I was thinking to contact one of his photographers to ask for the models email address. It's so much easier said then done! I'm really worried about this! :(How do I go about this without appearing like a stalker or a creeper? Because that is the least I would want, this is a genuine question. I would like some advice.Any advice will be much appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (19 November 2012):
 I’m attracted to lots of pictures of people. I have no hope or dream of meeting them. Let’s see you live in the UK. Does he live here in the USA?
Do you know his name?
Do you know his age?
Do you know his sexual orientation?
Do you know his marital status?
Maybe he sounds like Elmer Fudd when he talks… would that be ok?
You do know that photos in magazines are air brushed.. and that he may not look like he does in the pictures in real life… will that disappoint? What if he wears a toupee?
Was the shoot for an ad or for a editorial spread in the magazine? For an ad you could contact the ad agency and ask them to forward a letter to him for you. Same if it’s the magazine. That’s really all you could do if you don’t’ know his name…. if you know his name you could google him and try to find out where to contact him but I have to address a few other things here:
1. He may still have a massive ego. You do not even have to be famous or in print to have one.
2. He may be a total jerk in real life
3. He could very well be gay…
4. OTHER than his lovely looks WHAT do you know about him?
I think that you have a crush. They can be very intense and are not limited to teens…
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2012): "Guys around me are just not right for me"
What makes you think this model is right for you? Just because he's pleasing on the eye?
OP you almost sound so shallow (And I may not be wrong about that yet)
How do you know guys around you aren't right for you? Have you dated each and every one of them so you have experience to back up that claim? Or are you just pre-concluding that because they may not reach the standards of physical expectation you have set in a man, or they don't have the job title you'd like, to be able to impress your friends with, so you have this "They can't possibly be right for me... Oh hell no!" Kind of attitude?
If everyone in this world overlooked the people around us in an attempt to settle for nothing less than a fantasy, we'd get nowhere in life.
I'm single and hoping for a nice ideal woman one day, but, you don't see me ignoring all the "mere mortals" of the female species around me in some pointless pursuit for Angelina Jolie. Its just nonsense and a right old recipe for disappointment.
Let's use her as an example for a minute.
Yes she looks good, I can't deny that one bit, but I'm also aware that she has professional makeup artists and hairstylist's to make her look as "Perfect" as she does, when the spotlight requires her to. When she takes off her makeup before bed at night, and wakes up each morning with a plain face, or she caught out by the paparazzi while shopping, she's just like any other woman walking this earth, except certain parts of her lifestyle are different, and she's more well known to the world than the person next to me.
Its the same for this male model, they make him look as good (in females eyes) as he does in the pictures because the occasion calls for it, without the assistance of his set crew and special effects etc, he wouldn't look as good as that. In fact, you probably could walk past him in the street and you wouldn't even be aware it was him because you have this set image in you mind that he permanently looks just like he does in the photos.
If you want to find a boyfriend, you need to be realistic about it, and not kid yourself.
By all means, give it a shot. As another person also said, it may not be impossible to pull off, but just don't be disappointed if you don't get the result in the end that you hoped for.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (18 November 2012):
 You've fallen in love with a picture of a guy in a controlled shoot, he has been dressed by somebody else, had a little make up applied, hair brushed by a hair sylist, air brushed and had any of the little imperfections we all have, photo shopped out.
So the picture you have fallen so in love with isn't even a true representation.
No agency he has ever worked with will give you contact details, they can't do that if they want to remain in business and be taken seriously, and if he hasn't done any work for 2 years it would seem his live is moving forward and he has other stuff to take care of.
The question you should be asking yourself is why you are fixated on your very own fairy tale rather than living your life in the real world.
Accept your crush on a person you know nothing about as being that, a crush, maybe one day your paths will cross but you should not be putting your life on hold just in case that does happen.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (18 November 2012):
I somewhat understand the negative responses as your infatuation is purely superficial and moral code says personality first, looks second. But honestly, why the heck not try? I mean, at worst he won't reply at all or he'll turn you down in a sweet but vague message. You've got nothing to lose, so go for it! Who knows what could happen.
Just don't make yourself miserable with fantasies and dreams because reality often disappoints in comparison. He's a model, so his pictures are polished up. In real life he'll probably look a little different, though handsome. Like every other human being, he's got good and bad days, annoying habits and personality traits. So try not to 'overhype' him IF he reacts positively to a message you send.
I had a stranger contact me on my profile based on a few pictures he saw. He sent me a sweet private message saying he knew it was stupid asking me out based on a picture, but since he hadn't had the pleasure of meeting me, he wanted to try it this way. I don't remember the exact way he formulated it, but it made me smile and I figured it couldn't hurt. I ended up meeting with the guy and we had a nice couple of dates. It didn't work out in the end, but that had to do with our different personalities rather than the fact he asked out a complete internet stranger.
So sure, why not? It could work. Just keep in mind that the higher you aim, the more unlikely it'll be for someone like that to reply to you. I dabbled in modeling, but I'm no Adriana Lima, for example. If your guy is like me and just did some stuff here and there, he'll probably be more open to it than someone whose name starts ringing bells.
Good luck!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (18 November 2012):
 Honestly, I think it's a pipe dream. It's like thinking Brad Pitt will leave Angelina Jolie for you because you wrote to him..
The extend of the persons fame has nothing to do with this.
You saw a picture and found him attractive, it's called a crush or food for a fantasy - it;'s doesn't mean there is a snowballs chance in Hades that you will be in a relationship with this guy.
Now if he has a Facebook/Twitter/Tumblr account you might be able to initiate some contact that way - but honey, be realistic.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2012): Can you imagine how many women have probably attempted what you are thinking of? I can't see anyone associated with him professionally handing over any of his personal details to you, or any other woman for that matter.
Hmmm, I'm thinking this is all just based on fantasy because you don't even know the guy, you only know how he looks in the flesh, and you like the idea of having a male model on your arm to parade in front of other women. Why not go on dates with REAL people and give yourself a realistic chance of finding the ideal boyfriend?
This is just my opinion, but, relationships based on just physical attraction are never a good idea. Good looks will attract your eyes, but what if he has the personality of a bear with a sore back side? Without a good personality and things in common, there's nothing to attract your heart and make for solid relationship foundations.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhy is there such negativity and doubt? I just don't understand, my question is legit.Guys around me are just not right for me, and the only way that I can see working if I put myself out there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@CaringGuy: The model isn't even a famous model he's not a celebrity, he's just an ordinary guy who did some modelling photoshoots.I still feel like I should try, otherwise I'd spend alot longer wondering 'what if's'..I'm a realistic person for the most part, but being realistic hasn't got me far in terms of relationships in the past. Because I'm naturally shy.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (18 November 2012):
This impossible can happen, that's true. If it didn't, no one would achieve anything.
But, with the impossible, you have to be realistic.
And the realistic view here is that, no matter who you speak to, no one will legally be able to give out his contact details. Anyone you go to will either say 'no', because they will be in breach of contract and may not work again, or they will refer you to his agent, who will also say 'no'.
Don't underestimate the layers of protection that famous people have to stop this from happening. How many women do you think have tried to contact Daniel Radcliffe! Thousands! How many have got anywhere? None! Because he will be shielded at all times from people by his agent.
Sorry, but this isn't going to happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIf my question is coming across as obsessive, then that's not how I feel about him. I'm not obsessed, nor do I feel obsessed about him.
I'm not asking about his complete details, just would like to ask for his email address.
I know that he's American, and I think I know his name that's all I know about him. I've not heard/read any cover stories about him. He just seems like an ordinary guy who just had a modelling job for a little while.
All the guys I know they just don't do anything for me most are jerks and I can't see myself with them. Maybe I'm just picky, because this model has the physical things I look for in a man, but I just want to know him. I just want a chance to talk to him, sometimes the impossible happens.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (18 November 2012):
Okay, look, you need to step right back and think about what you've just written. Because, sadly, it does come across as someone who's obsessed, and there's no doubt that any advisor this male model has is going to say the same thing.
There's no way that any photographer can give out his details. At best, they'll give you an agent, who will block you because that's their job. There's no way you'll get contact details for this guy.
And, even of you did, what do you know about him. You dont' really know where he's from, you don't know whether any stories you've heard are just cover stories, you don't know whether he's even alive given that he's not done any work for 2 years!
I think you have a classic crush on someone, just as some people have crushes on film stars and all that. They do the same as you - they go through all these questions in their head, thinking how can they get with them, and never get anywhere because people like that always have paid advisor who help them in situations like this.
As painful as it may seem, you need to come back down from this dream and realise that this is not going to happen.
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