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writes:Hi i need some advice.I have been split up with my ex since the summer, we have been sleeping with each other on/off since then. We both seen other people but on both sides its fizzled out.I'm confused, he's making more of an effort now texting now and again, hanging around, being nice, giving me money, helping out more. He seems to stare at me a lot when im not looking using excuses to touch his hand etc.We have children and I had an op a few weeks back so he takes our daughter to school.Could he be having a change of heart? He said he's glad we're getting on now better.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (18 November 2012):
 Here's an interesting take on couples who are split:
When a couple splits, the guy is CERTAIN that there are oodles of girls "out there" who are waiting for him... just DYING to be his sexual conquests..... What he soon learns is that he is one of oodles of men who are mistaken about how gullible a lot of the ladies are.... AND he had it pretty good, when he had his "steady" girl (or, "wife") who was available for his se*ual doings most of the time...
WHEN that reality sets in.... we guys are strangely reconstituted as "pretty nice guys who really ARE in love with you (women), after all....."
THAT is the status that you and your B/F now have.... YOU seem to be willing to give him a "pass" for his behaviour... and, apparently, he is wise enough to take you up on it....
Good luck.....
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (18 November 2012):
 Any dad should be giving children money and helping out. He said he's glad you are getting on better. That could mean that he is happy that you can be civil with each other and not argue in front of the children. And of course he gets to have sex without you asking where you stand. When two people split up. It could be that they don't see a future with each other. When two people are miserable not even children could mend their relationship. If you split up for trivial reasons, then either way, you are not right for each other. My advice would be not to sleep with him until you know for sure that he wants to get back with you, not for few months down the road. If he has no intentions of marriage with you, then he should not be sleeping with you, or flirting with you. He is at your place just to pick up the children or give them money, that's it.
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